“Friendships with oneself is all-important, because without it one cannot be friends with anyone else in the world.”- Eleanor Roosevelt
You can’t give to people what you don’t have. If you don’t have love, you can’t give love to other people. If you don’t have happiness, you can’t make other people happy. Everything starts with you. Love starts with you. Happiness starts with you. No more, no less. So, to love other people, you must first love yourself. Yes, start with yourself. Because everything starts with you.
We are one. You know people better when you open your mind. You can’t know people from a distance. If you want to know people, or you want people to know you, it is your responsibility to reach out to them. Don’t live in isolation. People want to meet you. But they cannot do it without your own consent. Open your mind to receive love, happiness, peace, joy, and care from other people. Why is that? Because we are one.
We are social animals. Human beings are not created to live alone. We are created to live together, to work together, to love together, to cry together, to mourn together, to study together, to party together, to travel together, to vote together. As philosopher Pierre Teilhard de Chardin once said, “We are one, after all, you and I. Together we suffer, together exist, and forever will recreate each other.” Yes, will recreate each other. We are better when we do things together. We are better when we reach out to our friends. We are better when we love our enemies. We are better when we work together. For some people, it is not easy to connect. If that is the case, start with your family member. Go out and have fun with them. Don’t stay behind when they are doing things together. Pierre Tailhard de Chardin said, “The world is round so that friendship may encircle it.” Remember, “You get what you sow.” No more, no less.