You Can’t Change People, But You can Change Yourself

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People change because they want to change, not because they are threatened to change. It is difficult to change yourself, let alone to even think of changing other people. It is good to try, but you are unlikely to succeed.

Change is not comfortable. People don’t like to change, because it is not easy. It makes them nervous. It makes them uncomfortable. They will resist it. Since you know how hard it it to convince people to change, why bother?

It is good to try. Remember, no matter what you do, no matter the strategy you use to convince them to change, there are people who will never change. They love what they are doing. They are comfortable with where they are and with what they are doing. They will change when they are ready.

In order to succeed in convincing people to change, give them valid reasons why they should change. Give them valid reasons why they should leave their comfort zones for something they don’t understand. Let them know that changing is coming. Don’t surprise them. If you do that, they will resent and resist your project. Make them understand that where they are going will be better than where they are coming from. Give them hope. Coach them. Make them comfortable. Don’t exclude those who are not in support of your change process. Listen to them. They have something valuable to add to your change project.

Don’t get frustrated if people are not ready to change. They will change when they are ready. It will not happen if they don’t believe in you. Before they even listen to you, they have to believe in what you are selling. So be honest when dealing with people. Thomas A. Kempis said, “Be not angry that you cannot make others as you wish them to be, since you cannot make yourself as you wish to be.” If you can’t change yourself, don’t even bother to change others. Change starts with you. People will change when they see you change.

Change is personal. If you want people to change, be honest, and give them time to process it. Don’t rush them, and they will consider it.

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How To Change Your Life

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The only thing that is constant in life is change. Everything around us is changing. But whether we see it or not, whether we feel it or not, we are changing everyday. We need to change if we are to grow in life.

You can change if you want to. You can do it if it is important to you. People don’t change because change is not pretty. Change is uncomfortable. Change is scary. Change makes people nervous. They are scared of the uncertainty, or the newness that comes with change.

If you embrace change, change will embrace you. You cannot grow without embracing change. Don’t fight change, embrace change. A successful change will take you to the next level. A successful change will get you that promotion you have been waiting for. But if you resent it, if you fight it, if you resist it, you are hurting yourself. You will remain in your comfort zone. Remember, comfort zone is just comfort zone. It offers nothing new. It offers no growth. It makes you comfortable.

You are not going to get better by chance, but by change. You can change your life by changing your thinking. You can change your life by changing the way you view change. You cannot change your life by fighting change, but by embracing change. Jim Rohn said, “Your life does not get better by chance, it gets better by change.” If you change the way you think, you can change your life. You are the only one who can do it. No one has the power to change your life, but you. No one has the power to make your life better, but you.

You can change your life, you can make your life better, if you want to. Change it by changing your thinking.