‘You can’t change what you’re too busy feeling ashamed of. The only way to change it is to remove that shame and see the root of all of this.’

‘Productive pain requires a silent, still moment- it does not require a lifetime of stillness.’

‘Turning our passive pain into productive pain requires that we first feel that pain.’

‘Let yourself feel what you feel because the pain that we’re afraid of experiencing is exactly what’s keeping us away from the power that we’re going to need in order to grow.’

‘You don’t have to like saying no, but you have to be okay with the idea of no.’

‘You have to be okay with standing your ground and saying no more often, bit by bit if you don’t feel ready to go cold turkey.’

‘Expecting people to treat you differently than how you tell them to is asinine.’

‘When you decide to make your boundaries, your first step is always gonna be to come back to yourself and deal with the fears in your mind.’

‘Knowing when not to chase people comes from accepting yourself and liking what you see. … It comes from accepting parts of yourself that you don’t like as well, without apologizing for them.’

‘When we chase people, we are literally robbing ourselves of a destiny where we are valued, pursued, and given the same amount and type of energy that we are putting forth.’

‘Your best life is waiting on you, but you can’t have that life if you’re chasing something that’s not designed for you- and if it’s not chasing you back and giving you the same energy that you’re giving it, then it’s not for you, baby!’

‘No matter how much we improve ourselves, we can’t always avoid people who have the potential to make us feel shitty. It’s not about what you are attracting. It’s about what you are entertaining and keeping.‘

‘If you’re in a toxic relationship, don’t avoid the pain.’

‘To top drawer yourself is to be your healthiest self by creating your most confident self.’

‘If you ain’t confident in yourself– in your ability to engage with the world and overcome problems- you are going to subconsciously manifest and seek out and create situations that produce what you expect.’

‘It is your confidence– not your clothes, your weight, or your face– that is the game-changer.’

‘If you wanna change your packaging, you have to change the story that you tell yourself about yourself.’

‘You can’t ever operate from an authentic place if you’re not willing to be honest with yourself about who you are.’

‘If you are not fully honest with yourself about who you are across the spectrum, then you’re not going to allow your unique-abilities and your core competency to come out.’

‘Life ain’t fair, so stop looking for fair.’

‘Life is what we make of it, so make it great!’

‘Everyone is not your assignment. Your assignment is the people who are ready to receive what you have to offer- and do the work themselves as opposed to waiting for you to save them.’

‘Sometimes being an asshole to people is nothing more than setting healthy boundaries.’

‘Nothing gonna change unless you get the ball rolling.’

Source

MJ Harris (2024). Get The F*ck Out Your Own Way: A Guide to Letting Go of the Sh*t that’s Holding You Back