You Can’t Control People, But You Can Do This One Thing

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You cannot control what people do to you. You cannot control how people treat you. You cannot control how they react to you. People react the way they do because they see the world differently. They don’t see the world the way you do. They don’t think the way you do. They view the world through a different lens. They have the right to behave the way they behave. They have the right to act the way they act. They have the right to treat you the way they do. It is their choice. Choice matters.

You cannot control people’s behavior, but you can control how you react to them. You can control yourself. You can control your emotions. If people treat you in a bad way, you have the choice to treat them in a positive way or in a negative way. If people treat you in a bad way, don’t fight back with anger, resentment, but with love.

Instead of fighting back with resentment or anger, try to understand why they are behaving the way they do. They have reasons behind their actions- whether they are accepted or unaccepted. It is not good to fight back with anger because you don’t know what they are going through in life. We are all fighting something in life. We are all going through something in life. If people treat you in a bad way, don’t jump to conclusion, try to understand where they are coming from. If you take the time to know them, you will see that they are not as terrible as you have imagined them to be. People are naturally good, but they don’t know how to show it to others.

When people are acting in weird ways, don’t criticize them. Try to find out who they are, where they are coming from, how they have been living their lives, and what they have gone through in life. When you know where people are coming from, it is easier for you handle them. Sometimes when people are acting out, they are not acting to hurt you. They are fighting with themselves, not you. Learn not to take things personal. If you take things personal, you are hurting yourself. But if you don’t take things personal, you will not be impacted by them.

Dr. Wayne Dyer said, ” How people treat you is their karma; how you react is yours.” It does not matter how people treat you, but how you react to it matters.

Control yourself, not people.

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How To Change Your Life

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The only thing that is constant in life is change. Everything around us is changing. But whether we see it or not, whether we feel it or not, we are changing everyday. We need to change if we are to grow in life.

You can change if you want to. You can do it if it is important to you. People don’t change because change is not pretty. Change is uncomfortable. Change is scary. Change makes people nervous. They are scared of the uncertainty, or the newness that comes with change.

If you embrace change, change will embrace you. You cannot grow without embracing change. Don’t fight change, embrace change. A successful change will take you to the next level. A successful change will get you that promotion you have been waiting for. But if you resent it, if you fight it, if you resist it, you are hurting yourself. You will remain in your comfort zone. Remember, comfort zone is just comfort zone. It offers nothing new. It offers no growth. It makes you comfortable.

You are not going to get better by chance, but by change. You can change your life by changing your thinking. You can change your life by changing the way you view change. You cannot change your life by fighting change, but by embracing change. Jim Rohn said, “Your life does not get better by chance, it gets better by change.” If you change the way you think, you can change your life. You are the only one who can do it. No one has the power to change your life, but you. No one has the power to make your life better, but you.

You can change your life, you can make your life better, if you want to. Change it by changing your thinking.