One Important Way To Be Your Real Self

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Why is it important to be our real selves? Why can’t we just keep ‘faking it till we make it?’

Great questions! It is impossible to live a great life without first knowing who you are, what is important to you, and what makes you happy. If you don’t know your true self, then you are not living your own life. You are faking it till you make it. When will you come out of your closet?

The only life you have is YOURS, not mine. Euripides said, “There is just one life for each of us: our own.” Until you start to live your own life, you are not really living your own life, you are living other people’s lives. Do you want to live like that? I hope not.

It is important to live your OWN life. When you live your own life, you will have the chance to focus on yourself- your skills, your talents, your relationships, your personal and professional development, your self- discovery. But if you focus on other people’s lives, you are not living your own life to the fullest. You are wasting your time on earth.

The only way to be your real self, your true self, is to be ORIGINAL. You cannot be yourself when you imitate people. Imitation is not real. It is a photocopy. To accomplish great things in life, you have to be yourself. If not, your self-esteem will suffer. Herman Melville said, “It is better to fail in originality than to succeed in imitation.” It is better to fail being yourself than to succeed being another person. If you succeed being another person, you have not succeeded. But if you succeed being yourself, you have succeeded.

Be yourself, don’t imitate anyone, and you will succeed.

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Don’t Dwell On What Went Wrong

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Things will always go wrong in life. You cannot control everything in life. There are things that you can control, and there are things you cannot control. Control what you can control. Don’t worry about what you cannot control. If you focus on what you cannot control, that is the beginning of unhappiness. If you want to be happy, focus on what you can control.

Look, if you have everything under your belt, you are playing it too safe. When you are playing a safe game, nothing significant will go wrong. But when you are playing a rough and intelligent game, something will go wrong. When you are trying to change your life, it won’t be easy. When you are getting into a new job, a new career, a new city, it won’t be easy. When you are trying to be creative, it won’t be easy. When you are trying to live your life, in your own way, it won’t be easy. It is not always going to be easy. But if you play your game well, you can reduce the stress associated with moving forward. As Mario Andretti put it, “If you have everything under control, you are not moving fast enough.” When you are doing creative things, you have no control over them. You just want to explore.

Dennis Waitley said, “Don’t dwell on what went wrong. Instead, focus on what to do next. Spend your energy on moving forward toward finding the answer.” Whatever you are going through in life, looking forward for solutions is the best answer. If you continue to dwell on the past, you can’t find the right solution to your problem.

In moving forward, focus on how you are going to improve your life, not living in the past. If you continue to live in the past, you will always find it hard to enjoy the moment. Look forward, not backward. Discipline yourself for greatness. Jim Rohn said, “It is the small discipline that leads to great accomplishments.” Instead of beating yourself up, focus on doing the things that will take you closer to your dreams. The little things matter. If you do the little things well, the big things will take care of themselves. In addition to that, you must program yourself for success. Don’t live in yesterday’s world. Live in today’s world. Think success. Plan for success. Preparation is the key to success. If you want to succeed, you must prepare yourself to succeed. Confucius, the great philosopher, said, “Success depends on our previous preparations, and without such preparations there is sure to be failure.” If you want to succeed, you must be ready to work hard. Success depends on hard work.

If you don’t live in yesterday, if you don’t focus on what is not working for you, if you focus on the positive things and how to make things better for you, you will come back again. You will come back again!