Tag: Growth

If You Want To Find Yourself, You Must Stop Pleasing People

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Photo by Andrea Piacquadio

Help people, but don’t please them. Why are you wasting your time to please people? Why? You need people to help you succeed in your life. Pleasing people is not the right way to get there. Pleasing people is not the right way to build a positive relationship. Some people will like you for who you are; others will hate you for who you are. Don’t worry. Keep moving forward. Your life is not in their hands. You must focus on making yourself better.

You say yes to everything. You can’t say no to people. You don’t want to let people down. You want people to like you. You want to fit in. You care about what other people think of you. You want to look good in the eyes of other people. You don’t want people to reject you. Wow!

“Please all, and you will hurt yourself.”

Know this: “Until you start saying yes to yourself, you will never find yourself. Until you stop pleasing people, you will never know your true self.

In reality, when you don’t focus on yourself, you are stopping yourself from moving forward. You are stopping yourself from growing. You are stopping yourself from building a meaningful life. To stop that, you must be comfortable with who you are. You must practice your core values. Let your values guide your life. Aesop said, “Please all, and you will please none.” Please yourself to grow yourself. Please all, and you will hurt yourself.

Why You Can’t Get Anything Done

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Photo by Anna Shvets

“Action is the fundamental key to all success.”- Anthony Robbins

It is not enough to dream. You must take action to make your dream a reality. If you want to change things in your life, don’t be a dreamer, but a doer. It is even better for you to be a dreamer and a doer. Why is that? Because everything starts with a dream.

If you want your dream to grow, if you want it to change your life, you must take action to make it happen. Nothing happens by accident. You know what to do to change your life, but you are not doing it. You are not doing it because you are scared of not doing it well. You don’t want to fail. You want it be perfect. You want to know everything about your dream before you start pursuing it. If this is what you have been doing to your life, it won’t work. You have got to change it.

To get things done, start where you are, with what you have. Don’t wait for the perfect time to come. When it comes to growth, there is no perfect time to start. If you want to start, now is the right time.