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Are You Comfortable With Yourself?

Silhouette Of A Person On A Swing
Photo by Asad Photo Maldives

It is okay to be by yourself. It is okay to live your own life in your way. If you are not comfortable living your life, if you are not comfortable being yourself, if you are not comfortable loving yourself, what are you doing to yourself?

“We live together, we act on, and react to, one another; but always and in all circumstances we are by ourselves.”– Aldous Huxley

Stop preparing to live your life. Your life is unique. You must be comfortable living it. Don’t apologize for living your life in your own way. Don’t! If you have been waiting for people to love you before you love yourself, you are not helping your life. You are hurting your life, your growth. Live your life. Stop waiting to live. You are not going to be here forever. You are going to die one day. Why not make your life worth living? Why not stop waiting for who is not waiting for you? Whether you are afraid to live your life or not, you are responsible for your own life. You are responsible for everything concerning you. Don’t expect too much from people. Don’t expect what you cannot give yourself from anyone. Do it for you.

If you want happiness from other people, give happiness to yourself. If you want love from other people, give love to yourself. Why? Because what you can’t do for yourself, no one can do it for you. It is your life.

If You Want To Find Yourself, You Must Stop Pleasing People

Happy adult woman talking on phone and using laptop while chilling at home
Photo by Andrea Piacquadio

Help people, but don’t please them. Why are you wasting your time to please people? Why? You need people to help you succeed in your life. Pleasing people is not the right way to get there. Pleasing people is not the right way to build a positive relationship. Some people will like you for who you are; others will hate you for who you are. Don’t worry. Keep moving forward. Your life is not in their hands. You must focus on making yourself better.

You say yes to everything. You can’t say no to people. You don’t want to let people down. You want people to like you. You want to fit in. You care about what other people think of you. You want to look good in the eyes of other people. You don’t want people to reject you. Wow!

“Please all, and you will hurt yourself.”

Know this: “Until you start saying yes to yourself, you will never find yourself. Until you stop pleasing people, you will never know your true self.

In reality, when you don’t focus on yourself, you are stopping yourself from moving forward. You are stopping yourself from growing. You are stopping yourself from building a meaningful life. To stop that, you must be comfortable with who you are. You must practice your core values. Let your values guide your life. Aesop said, “Please all, and you will please none.” Please yourself to grow yourself. Please all, and you will hurt yourself.