Why You Don’t Need To Be Perfect

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“To be nobody- but yourself- in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you everybody else- means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight; and never stop fighting.”- e.e. cummings, poet

Let us face it, my friends. Who is perfect? Are you perfect? Is the world a perfect place? If we really want to be honest with ourselves, the answer is NO. So if nothing is perfect, then why are we fighting for it?

I am not perfect. I make all kinds of mistakes everyday. But I am okay with that. They don’t define me. And they can’t define me. Because you are who you say you are. If you say you are perfect, regardless of where you are, what is happening around you, within you, to you, you are perfect. That is what you should be telling yourself every day.

If you say you are perfect, regardless of where you are, what is happening around you, within you, to you, you are perfect.”

When you wake up in the morning, celebrate your imperfections. Don’t worry yourself about them. Just celebrate the fact that you are imperfect. If you are completely perfect, if you have nothing to worry about, the world will be a boring place for you to live in. Perfection is boring!

If you want to grow in your life, don’t try to be perfect, try to always do your best. If you focus on being perfect, you will not enjoy anything in life, not even yourself. To overcome perfectionism, you must believe in yourself. Don’t try to be who you are not. It won’t work. And don’t let negative people talk you into ignoring your life, your purpose, your growth. In the words of e.e. Cummings, “Once we believe in ourselves, we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight, or any experience that reveals the human spirit.” When you believe in yourself, everything will work out well for you, not against you.

The real question is: Do you have the courage to believe in yourself? e.e. Cummings said, “It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are.” To grow up in your life, you must first overcome yourself. If you have not done that, you can’t overcome the world.

Do not let perfectionism stop you from talking to me. We will fight it together. We are all in this together. You are not alone. Whatever you want to do, go for it. The more you do, the better for you. Ralph Waldo Emerson told us many years ago that “all life is an experiment. The more experiments you make the better.”

That is how we should approach our lives. If you can see life as it really is, if you can see things as they really are, you can achieve anything in your life. Again, the question is: Are you ready to love yourself as you really are? Are you ready to let go of who you think you are supposed to be? Are you ready to ignore other people’s opinions? Are you ready to stand up for yourself? Are you ready to stop creating who you are not? Are you ready to let go of negative friends? Are you ready to connect with yourself? If you are ready, the world is ready.

The True Meaning Of Communication

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Communication is not what you think it is. It is more than just talking. It is more than just nodding your head. It is more than forcing others to listen to you.

The world is in trouble because people don’t listen anymore. But we want others to listen to us. That is not going to happen. When it comes to communicating with other people, you must learn to listen to them. When you listen to people, you will hear them. They will hear you. But if you REALLY want people to listen to you, you must respect them. You must treat your message with love, happiness, and compassion.

“Communication is- start by understanding- your own understanding about people. Even though you want them to understand you, you know, it is- unless you understand people, it is almost impossible.”

Shunryu Suzuki

Communication is an emotional business. People pay attention to your emotions when you are talking. People pay attention to what you are not telling them. People want to listen to you. But you must make them comfortable.

If you want to be a good communicator, you must be a good listener. Because communication is about listening, not about talking.

The true meaning of communication is understanding. Before you say something, try to understand the true meaning, the hidden meaning of your message. People don’t care about what you say; they care about how you say it. If you want people to listen to you, you must understand them.