Tag: Self-love

How To Treat Yourself?

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in BriSights, Health & Well-Being, Leadership, Management, Personal Development, Workplace Learning
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‘How you treat others is often a reflection of your relationship with yourself. When you find yourself irritated by colleagues, recognise that you might be as harsh on them as you are on yourself.’- Naomi Shragai

When it comes to how you treat yourself, people are watching you. They are paying attention to how you are treating yourself. They are paying attention to what you do when you are stressed out, when things are not going well, when you are with your subordinates.

They are paying attention to how you are treating the world around you. They are watching because they want to know how to deal with you.

If you don’t treat yourself as a human being, no one is going to treat you as a human being.

If you can’t spend quality time with yourself, no one is going to spend quality time with you.

If you are not comfortable with yourself, if you are not comfortable with what you see in the mirror when you wake up in the morning, then don’t expect anything special from other people.

It is that simple, but it is hard to practice. No matter what, my friend, life is too short. Don’t expect everything to be perfect before you give yourself what you want from other people.

Don’t wait for the perfect time to say, ‘I love me’ to yourself. If you don’t say it, no one will say it. If you have been saying stupid things to yourself, you must stop it. Because you deserve better. Don’t wait anymore. Stop waiting. Because you can do it for yourself.

Remember, life is not going to give you what you can give yourself.

If you want a better job, go out there and look for one for yourself. If you can’t find one, then create one.

If you want to improve your relationship with yourself, then go out there and do what makes you happy.

If you want to improve your relationship with God, then you must spend time with God.

If you want to improve your relationships with your friends, then be a good friend to yourself, then you can extend your self-love to them.

If you want to create a better world, then start with yourself. The question is, ‘Will you?’

Source

Naomi Shragai (2021). The Man Who Mistook His Job for His Life: How to Thrive at Work by Leaving Your Emotional Baggage Behind

How To Lead Yourself

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in BriSights, Health & Well-Being, Leadership, Management, Personal Development, Workplace Learning
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‘You teach people how to treat you. Even when you’re not formally in charge, you define the experience of working with you. Setting clear expectations is imperative.’

‘Be careful spending too much time with the people who reinforce negativity cycle. Be even more careful about the role you’re playing. Instead, channel your energy to creating supportive friendships.’

‘A strong network, inside and outside of your company, is crucial for making your next play.’

‘Leading yourself requires you to not only tolerate change but embrace it.’

‘You can burn bridges, change your mind, get laid off, and still move forward. Careers aren’t a one-time decision; they’re a process.’

‘Assess, don’t obsess. Asking for feedback too often or taking all the feedback too seriously will erode your morale and weaken your results.’

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‘Leading yourself means interacting with others in a way you want them to interact with you.’

‘Leading yourself doesn’t guarantee you’ll make each move with 100% confidence, and it doesn’t mean you’ll make the right move every time. It means that despite being afraid, despite some ambiguity or unrest, you make a play.’

‘You can respectfully push back on a decision by validating the good intent and presenting the facts with helpful, soft language.’

‘You will not get where you want to go (in the long term) by outworking everyone, being the only one who can do your job, or never making a mistake.’

‘It’s impossible to be efficient with your time if you stick with everything you start. Don’t let sunk costs keep you from making a change.’

‘If you’re looking for evidence of something, you’ll find it. Intentionally point your brain to what you want to see (meaning, purpose, joy, and opportunities).

Source

Elizabeth Lotardo (2024). Leading Yourself: Find More Joy, Meaning, and Opportunities in the Job You Already Have