Tag: Listening

This Is What Happens When You Stop Talking

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Stop talking. It is listening time. It is time to let go of what you know. It is time to learn from other people. It is time to respect other people. Why is that? Because listening to others is a sign of respect.

When you listen to others, here are some of the things you are saying to them: I hear you. I love you. You are a human being. I respect you. Your problem is my problem. We are in this together. We will get through it together. I want to learn from you. You know what I do not know. You have something important to say. I value you. We can work together. You are the boss, not me. I want to hear your struggles. I want to learn from your successes. I want you to be free to express yourself. I don’t want you to hold anything back. I want you to help me become a better learner, a better listener, a better leader.

If you want to become a better person, you must first learn how to listen.

We learn more when we listen. We miss more when we talk.

According to Amy Cuddy, “When you stop talking, stop preaching, and listen, here’s what happens: People can trust you. … if you do not have people’s trust, you will find it very hard to influence them in a deep and lasting way. You acquire useful information, which makes it more easier to solve any problem you face. You begin to see other people as individuals- and maybe even allies. You no longer see other people as stereotypes. You develop solutions that other people are willing to accept and even adopt. When people contribute to the solutions- when they are co-owners of them- they are more likely to commit to and follow through with them. When people feel heard, they are more willing to listen. … If people don’t feel that you ‘get’ them, they are not inclined to invest their time and energy in activities- such as listening- that will help them to understand you.”

Just listen. Stop preaching. If you want others to hear you, you must first hear them.

Further Reading:

Cuddy, A., Presence: Bringing your BOLDEST SELF to your BIGGEST CHALLENGES (New York: Hachette Book Group, 2015): 78-81.

How The Best Get Better

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According to Robin Sharma, “The best get better by staying wildly focused on the simple principles of excellence, principles such as treating people well, working hard, refusing to give up, seeing opportunity where others see failure abd staying true to you.”

You are responsible for your growth and development. You can grow yourself if you are willing to pay the price. It comes with a price. You can have it if you are willing and ready to work really hard for it. Do not focus on failure. Focus on what you are doing. Do not listen to those who are not for you. They don’t help. Create a plan for yourself. And follow it until you have what you want. Do not abandon your plan, but be flexible.

Mike Murdock says, “Great achievers have success routines they follow diligently. They simply discipline themselves for a period of time until a habit is born.” Nothing is impossible. If you want something badly, you must commit yourself to it. You must work really hard to make it happen. Do not wait for other people to help you. You have what it takes to get what you want. Why not use it?