You can create your own life on your own terms.
And the best life to live is your own life.
You can live it. Do not let anybody tell you that you
can't create your own life. Of course, you can.
To start, you can start with the following strategies, according to
Paul Napper and Anthony Rao, PhDs.
Never stop learning. ''... to be an effective learner, you need to adjust
or at times suspend your opinions and personal beliefs,
sometimes even deeply held ones , to position yourself to learn.''
You can't learn if all you know is yourself. To learn, you must be present.
Learn how to 'manage your exposure'
''Managing your exposure to external stimuli will increase the quality
of your thinking, the quality of your judgment, and the quality of your life overall.''
Spend time with quality people.
Yes, with quality people. You need it. Why is that?
According to Napper & Rao, ''Spending time with empathetic,
optimistic, open-minded people and weeding out those
who have opposite qualities will boost your mood, elevate your motivation,
and improve your health.'' Life is short. So make sure you are
spending quality time with quality people. It is good for your dreams.
It is good for your life. And it is good for your happiness.
Manage your emotions.
If you want to enjoy your life, you must master your own emotions.
Do not let your emotions master you. If they do, your life is going to be
miserable. According to Napper and Rao, 'Increasing your awareness of emotions
and beliefs drive your thinking, influence your behaviour,
and affect your judgment will help you navigate life with confidence.''
To master your life, you must master your emotions.
"Even if you seek to harm an enemy, you should remove your own defects and cultivate good qualities. Through that you will help yourself, and the enemy will be displeased."- Nagarjuna
Do not try to fix, to change another person. Do not try to do to others what you can't do to yourself. Before you try to change another person, you must first change yourself.
Focus on what you can do for yourself, not what others can do for you. You will enjoy your life even more than you are enjoying now if you can just focus on working on yourself.
Work on yourself. It is you. Life is all about you. Do not be scared to confront life. Because if you do not do it, no one is going to help you get rid of your defects. If you want your defects to go away, you must be true to yourself.
Whatever you want from others, just do it for yourself. When you do, others will do the same.
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