You Can’t Control People, But You Can Do This One Thing

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You cannot control what people do to you. You cannot control how people treat you. You cannot control how they react to you. People react the way they do because they see the world differently. They don’t see the world the way you do. They don’t think the way you do. They view the world through a different lens. They have the right to behave the way they behave. They have the right to act the way they act. They have the right to treat you the way they do. It is their choice. Choice matters.

You cannot control people’s behavior, but you can control how you react to them. You can control yourself. You can control your emotions. If people treat you in a bad way, you have the choice to treat them in a positive way or in a negative way. If people treat you in a bad way, don’t fight back with anger, resentment, but with love.

Instead of fighting back with resentment or anger, try to understand why they are behaving the way they do. They have reasons behind their actions- whether they are accepted or unaccepted. It is not good to fight back with anger because you don’t know what they are going through in life. We are all fighting something in life. We are all going through something in life. If people treat you in a bad way, don’t jump to conclusion, try to understand where they are coming from. If you take the time to know them, you will see that they are not as terrible as you have imagined them to be. People are naturally good, but they don’t know how to show it to others.

When people are acting in weird ways, don’t criticize them. Try to find out who they are, where they are coming from, how they have been living their lives, and what they have gone through in life. When you know where people are coming from, it is easier for you handle them. Sometimes when people are acting out, they are not acting to hurt you. They are fighting with themselves, not you. Learn not to take things personal. If you take things personal, you are hurting yourself. But if you don’t take things personal, you will not be impacted by them.

Dr. Wayne Dyer said, ” How people treat you is their karma; how you react is yours.” It does not matter how people treat you, but how you react to it matters.

Control yourself, not people.

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One Important Way To Be Your Real Self

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Why is it important to be our real selves? Why can’t we just keep ‘faking it till we make it?’

Great questions! It is impossible to live a great life without first knowing who you are, what is important to you, and what makes you happy. If you don’t know your true self, then you are not living your own life. You are faking it till you make it. When will you come out of your closet?

The only life you have is YOURS, not mine. Euripides said, “There is just one life for each of us: our own.” Until you start to live your own life, you are not really living your own life, you are living other people’s lives. Do you want to live like that? I hope not.

It is important to live your OWN life. When you live your own life, you will have the chance to focus on yourself- your skills, your talents, your relationships, your personal and professional development, your self- discovery. But if you focus on other people’s lives, you are not living your own life to the fullest. You are wasting your time on earth.

The only way to be your real self, your true self, is to be ORIGINAL. You cannot be yourself when you imitate people. Imitation is not real. It is a photocopy. To accomplish great things in life, you have to be yourself. If not, your self-esteem will suffer. Herman Melville said, “It is better to fail in originality than to succeed in imitation.” It is better to fail being yourself than to succeed being another person. If you succeed being another person, you have not succeeded. But if you succeed being yourself, you have succeeded.

Be yourself, don’t imitate anyone, and you will succeed.