“Men are disturbed not by things, but by the view which they take of them.”– Epictetus
“It’s not what happens to you, but how you react to it that matters.”- Epictetus
You can’t stop things from happening to you, but you are in charge of how you react to it. When things happen to you, don’t focus on the problems, focus on the solutions. When things happen to you, focus on what you can change. Don’t waste your time on what you cannot change.
It is not what happens that matters; it is what you do with what is left that matters. If you want to grow, you must let go of your past disappointments. Do not carry disappointments in your heart. You are better than that.
You can’t change your life by holding on to your past disappointments. If you want to experience your true life, you must do something to change your life.
In the words of Ferdinand Foch, “The will to conquer is the first condition of victory.” To conquer other people, you must first conquer yourself. You must develop the courage, the power to face yourself. Find the courage to be your true self. Don’t pretend to be who you are not. Don’t hide yourself. Give yourself the power to pursue your dreams, to defeat your fears, and to conquer yourself.
When you are faced with a problem, believe in yourself, face it, and move on. Don’t cry. Don’t complain. The Scripture says, “All things are possible to him who believes.” Just keep learning to be what you really are. According to Henri- Frederic Amiel, “Learn to … be what you are, and learn to resign with a good grace all that you are not.” From now on, resign from treating yourself badly. Resign from pretending to be who you are not. Because life is not about pretending; life is about loving. Life is about sharing. Life is about doing. If you are not learning to be what you are, you are learning to be who you are not. That is scary!