Love connects. Love brings people together. It lifts people up, not down. If love is not making you happy, if love is not bringing you closer to yourself, if love is not revealing who you really are to you, then it is not love. It is something else.
Love is meant to build your life, not destroy it. Love is not a destroyer. Love is a builder. According to Suzy Kassem, “Love is meant to lift you up, not tear you down. It is meant to strengthen you, not weaken you.”
We need someone who embraces us for our strengths and struggles
“When we’re looking for compassion, we need someone who is deeply rooted, able to bend, and, most of all, we need someone who embraces us for our strengths and struggles. We need to honor our struggles by sharing it with someone who has earned the right to hear it. When we’re looking for compassion, it’s about connecting with the right person at the right time and the right issue.”- The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are
The energy that exists between people
“I define connection as the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive without judgment; and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship.”-The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be Embrace Who You Are
We can only love others as much as we love ourselves
“We cultivate love when we allow our most vulnerable and powerful selves to be deeply seen and known, and when we honor the spiritual connection that grows from that offering with trust, respect, kindness, and affection. Love is not something we give or get; it is something that we nurture and grow, a connection that can only be cultivated between two people when it exists within each one of them- we can only love others as much as we love ourselves.”- The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be Embrace Who You Are