In the words of Ferdinand Foch, “The will to conquer is the first condition of victory.” To conquer other people, you must first conquer yourself. You must develop the courage, the power to face yourself. Find the courage to be your true self. Don’t pretend to be who you are not. Don’t hide yourself. Give yourself the power to pursue your dreams, to defeat your fears, and to conquer yourself.
When you are faced with a problem, believe in yourself, face it, and move on. Don’t cry. Don’t complain. The Scripture says, “All things are possible to him who believes.” Just keep learning to be what you really are. According to Henri- Frederic Amiel, “Learn to … be what you are, and learn to resign with a good grace all that you are not.” From now on, resign from treating yourself badly. Resign from pretending to be who you are not. Because life is not about pretending; life is about loving. Life is about sharing. Life is about doing. If you are not learning to be what you are, you are learning to be who you are not. That is scary!
Charles Reade once said, “Sow an act and you reap a habit. Sow a habit and you reap a character. Sow a character and you reap a destiny.” You can do whatever you set out to do in your life. But it begins with a single seed. You must plant your own seed in the ground. Do not just plant any seed, plant your own seed. If you plant love. you will reap love. If you plant happiness, you will reap happiness. If you plant hate, you will reap hate. Remember that we are what we plant. If you don’t like something, don’t plant it, don’t nurture it.
Do what you feel good about doing. Do what feels really good in your heart. Follow it with all your might. Don’t waste your time on doing things that are not nurturing your life. Don’t waste your time on people who don’t appreciate what you bring to the table. If they don’t appreciate you, don’t worry yourself about it, there are others who will never let you down. Don’t nurture a terrible relationship. It is not good for you.
If you nurture a terrible relationship, you will get a terrible relationship. According to Zig Ziglar, “What you see in others, exists in you.” If you see love in others, don’t hold yourself back, embrace it. If you see life in others, don’t hold yourself back, enjoy it, live it. We are one. We live separately, but together. We are all connected. So connect yourself with love, with happiness, with forgiveness. Don’t be afraid to let go of what you don’t like in your life. When something doesn’t fit you anymore, let it go. Do not sow the seed of attachment. Because life is not about attachment, but about letting go. It is not easy to let go, to forget things, to live without them. But if you can let things go, you will really feel good about yourself, because it allows you to live your real life. So if you want to live a peaceful life, you must learn how to let things go.