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6 Important Lessons From Rachel Hollis On How To Put Life Back Together

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As the old saying goes, “You can’t control what happens to you, but you can control how you react to it.” You can’t control life, but you can control your own life. Live your life. Do not destroy yourself just to make other people happy.

If you are not happy, it is because you are not brave enough to face your life. No matter what is going on out there, it is your responsibility to make yourself happy. If you can’t do it for you, who do you think is going to do it for you. If you are honest with yourself, the answer is you.

If you want to put your life together, here are some strategies, according to Rachel Hollis.

She says, “Don’t fear your weakness, fear drowning in despair for the rest of your time on earth because you were too afraid to confront your pain.” No matter what you are going through in your life, if you want to put your life together, do not “cover your pain to make other people more comfortable.”

She says, “If you want to move forward, be honest about what’s going on even if it’s only to yourself.” If you have the courage to be honest with yourself, that is good enough.

She says, “Stop trying to cover up your emotions, or, frankly, anything you don’t like about yourself or your feelings, with a new coat of paint. … But in order to do that, you’ve got to be real. You have to allow yourself to truly feel what you feel before you can feel what you’d like.” Allow yourself to be you, to express yourself. If you don’t express your God-given self, then what are you doing with it?

She says, “Have the courage to admit who you are, even if it’s only to yourself at first.” Have the courage to admit who you are to yourself, to your mnd, to your body, and to your soul. Why is that? To know others, you must first know yourself. If not, you are faking it. Do not fake your way through life. Live your way through life. Grow your way through life. Do not be scared to set boundaries for yourself. They work.

She says, “When one thing changes, everything changes, even if it takes you a bit to admit it and adjust.” When something changes in your life, you are no longer the same person. Change is important. See it as a blessing, not as a curse.

She says, “You are going to have to love yourself enough to seek help. You are going to have to love yourself enough to forgive yourself. You are going to have to love yourself enough to believe that you can be better, that you will be better, next time. You are also going to have to love yourself enough to walk away from anyone who weaponizes your guilt and uses it against you.” You have the power to do whatever you want. But to do that, you have got to be real with yourself.

Remember, according to Rachel Hollis, “You are an ever-evolving being who will continue to change over time.”

“God Never Hurries.” Here Is Why?

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A. W. Tozer said, “God never hurries. There are no deadlines against which he must work. Only to know this is to quiet our spirits and relax our nerves.”

Look, you can run all you like. You are not a machine. You are a human being. As a human being, you will do better if you have the courage to stop, relax, and think.

Productivity is not about running; it is about resting. You will perform better if you have the courage to rest. No matter what you are doing, take some time to relax, to reconnect with yourself.

If it is possible, strive for a balanced life. In his book The Art of Being: 101 Ways to Practice Purpose in Your Life, Dennis Merritt Jones writes, “Some people devote so much time to their work and making lots of money that they forget what it means to play, relax, and spend time with loved ones. Others play so much that they don’t know what it is to work.”

It does not matter what you do, do not choose your work over your life. Forget about the salary. If you die, the company will replace you with another person.

You are the best because you are alive. You are still useful. Yes, you love your work. Yes, you MUST love your life more than your work, no matter how powerful. Seek a balanced life. Dennis Merritt Jones was right when he said, “Living a balanced life will produce a life of wholeness and deep inner peace.” If you think living a balanced life is not enough for you, then ask yourself, “How free am I in my everyday life, really?”

Further Reading:

Jones, D. M., The Art of Being: 101 Ways to Practice Purpose in Your Life (New York: Penguin Group, 2008): 66-67, 88.