Tag: Positive Emotions

How To Not Lose Yourself While Finding Your Own Path

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Personal Growth
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‘… if you’re uncomfortable with something, it’s because it isn’t right. Discomfort is the human response to a questionable or bad situation, whether that’s working long hours with no end in sight, exaggerating your business numbers to impress investors, or selling intimate user data to advertisers. If you get into the habit of suppessing all discomfort, you’re going to lose yourself, your manners, and your morals.’– jason Fried & David Heinemeier Hansson

Discomfort is a message. If you want to know what is going on in your life, you must pay attention to what you are feeling. Do not ignore your feelings.

Do not pretend that things are alright. Because things don’t get better by themselves. If you want things to change, you must, according to Ray Dalio, know ‘how reality works.’ Know what you want. Know what you do not want. Know what you can do. And know what you cannot do.

Do not say no to everything. And do not say yes to everything. Just focus on what makes sense to you. If something is good, do more of it. If you do not feel good about something, don’t do it.

Say ‘no’ to what is not relevant to you. Because, according to Jason and David, ‘When you say no to one thing, it’s a choice that breeds choices. When you say yes to one thing, you’ve spent that choice.’

The question is, ‘What are you saying no to?’ And what are you saying yes to?

The Meaning Of Being Lonely

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Personal Growth

Loneliness is not you. You are not lonely. You are reconnecting with your yourself. You are becoming a better you.

You are reflecting on things that you could have done differently. You are redefining yourself.

You are not willing to go back to where you were yesterday. You are moving foward. You are cleaning up your dirty mind. You are simplifying your life.

You are healing your life. You are healing your wound. You are forgiving people who have done things to you.

Just because you are not with people, just because you are alone, it has nothing to do with how you are feeling right now. BUT

it has everything to do with what you want for YOU. It has everything to do with where you want to go. It has everything to do with your inner self, your best self. It has everything to do with your relationships with others.

When you are alone, you are not lonely. You are spending quality time with yourself. Being alone is not being lonely. It is being alive. It is being comfortable with yourself.

Be comfortable with yourself, no matter what is going on in your life. Because if you are not okay with yourself, you will find it hard to be okay with other people.