“Never explain- your friends do not need it and your enemies will not believe you anyhow.”- Elbert Green Hubbard
You are bigger and better than what people are saying about you. Don’t worry about what people are saying about you. You should worry about what you are saying about yourself. You can’t make people like you. If you want to go great things, if you want to be happier, you must learn to live your life. Your life is too precious to worry about making other people happy. Start everything with yourself, but never explain.
If you want to make other people happy, you must first make yourself happy. Make yourself happy, then you can make other people happy. Don’t seek people’s approval. You don’t need it. You don’t need to hang out with the wrong people. You don’t need them. You just need the courage to believe in yourself. You just need the courage to break free from making everybody happy. So from now, you must protect your heart and soul. You must love yourself, love your mind, and your soul.
Eleanor Roosevelt famously said, “Understanding is a two-way street.” What does this quote mean to you? To me, it means understanding is knowing, not judging. If you want to know people, don’t judge them, know them. If you want to know yourself better, don’t judge yourself, know yourself.
You find it difficult to even know who you are because you never stop judging yourself. If you want to help yourself, your life, your family, stop judging yourself and start celebrating who you are. You can judge yourself all you want. But one thing will not change: “Who you are.”
Stay away from judging people. Stay away from judging yourself. Because judgement prevents you from knowing people. It doesn’t tell you the whole story about them. Before you judge people, try to understand them. Try to understand where they have been, where they are, why they do what they do, and where they are going. People have different stories. Our stories are not the same. If you want to hear people’s stories, listen to them.
“Understanding brings peace and harmony.”
You cannot do that without understanding yourself. The real understanding starts with you. It starts at home. Greatness begins at home. Understanding brings people together. And judgement separates people. If you want to know people, understand them. Do not judge them. Mother Teresa said, “If you judge people, you have no time to love them.” If you want to love people, understand them. If you want to love yourself, understand yourself. You cannot love yourself if you don’t understand who you really are. Love connects. Judgement separates. Love heals. Judgement kills. If you want to grow your life, it starts with understanding what you want out of life. It starts with understanding your values. It starts with understanding your emotions. And it starts with understanding your life.
If you want to know others, understand yourself. You can do it. But it will take time.