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5 Ways To Stop Comparing Yourself To Others

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If you want to grow, you must stop comparing yourself to others. Instead of comparing yourself to others because they can do what you can’t do, why not focus on what you can do that they cannot do. We all have our strengths and weaknesses. No one is perfect.

Remember, life is not about trying to be perfect, but about trying to do your best.

Focus on what you are good at. Do not focus on what you cannot do. Because success comes from doing what you are really good at. Do not worry about who is doing what. With hard work, you can make your own dream happen.

Do what you know how to do. Take it to the next level. Do what you love to do, not what other people want you to do. Remember, you are not here to pursue other people’s dreams. You are here to pursue your own dreams. If you really want to stop comparing yourself to others, try these strategies:

You must trust yourself

It is really difficult to be you in a world that is trying to change you. No matter what, do not follow the crowd. You must follow your own heart. One reason so many people never listen to themselves is the fear of other people’s opinions.

Do not let other people’s opinions of you bother you. Instead of trying to convince other people to like you, why not concentrate on yourself, on your growth, on where you are going? That is what you should be doing. According to Leo Buscaglia, “The hardest battle you’re going to fight is the battle to be just you.” Conquer yourself, not others. If you can conquer yourself, you can conquer others.

You must understand yourself

Everything starts with understanding. LIfe is about understanding who you really are. If you do not understand yourself, you will find it really hard to understand other people. According to Nikki Giovanni, “If you don’t understand yourself, you don’t understand anybody else.” If you want to know other people, you must first know yourself. The question is, do you really know who you are?

You must focus on your purpose

Do not wait for the right time to act. Do not wait for the right time to start something. The reason you are here is to pursue your purpose. If you are not pursuing your purpose, you are just wasting your time.

Do not let anyone scare you away from your purpose. It is your purpose. It is the reason you are here. Whether you are chasing your purpose or not, your time on earth is limited. You are not going to be here forever.

So you must use the time you have to do great things, to change yourself, to change lives. Do not waste it. Barbara Sher said, “Time is the only wealth we’re given.” Use your time to pursue your purpose. It is your responsibility to pursue your purpose.

According to Mary Oliver, “Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life.” Yes, what are you really with your time? Who are the people around you? If you want to grow, you must surround yourself with great people. If not, you will never leave where you are.

You must live your life fearlessly

You are not going to be successful if you are waiting for everything to be perfect before you start something. You are not going to be successful if you do not have the courage to face your fears. If you want to succeed, you must face them. You must live your life fearlessly. You must have the courage to face yourself, to conquer yourself.

Because if you don’t have what it takes to conquer yourself, you are not going to be able to conquer others. You are not going to be able to live fearlessly. Henry J. Kaiser once said, “Live daringly, boldly, fearlessly. Take the relish to be found in competition- in having put forth the best within you.” If you don’t have the courage to face your future, don’t forget that your success is on the other side of fear. So if you want to be successful, you MUST grow the courage to face your fears.

You must follow your own dream

You must have a dream because if you don’t have a dream, you are going to be chasing other people’s dreams. Unless you have the courage to dream big dreams, you are not going to achieve your greatness. If you want to get to the next level, you must not fear to dream. Henry J. Kaiser once said, “I akways have to dream up against the star. If I don’t dream I will make it, I won’t even get close…”

4 Critical Ways To Find Out Who You Really Are

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Who are you? What do you really want for yourself? What do you really want for your life? Why are you here? Do you know what you are good at? Do you know what you are not good at?

If you want to be successful in your life, you must focus on what you are good at. And to focus on what you are good at, you must first know who you are. Because you cannot be good at something if you do not know who you are.

If you don’t know who you are, you really can’t develop yourself.

So if you really want to make a difference in your life, here is how to go about it:

Go after what you want

If you can face what you want, you can develop yourself. If you can face what you really want for your life, you can grow yourself. But if you don’t know what you want, if you do not have the courage to face what you want, you can’t go for it. According to Barbara Sher, “You must go after your wish. As soon as you start to pursue a dream, your life wakes up and everything has meaning.” No matter how scary your dream may be, do not be scared to face it. Because if you do not have the courage to face your fears, you are not going to succeed.

Don’t play it too safe

If you want your life to change, if you want to change the direction of your life, you must NOT play it too safe. Do not be scared to make mistakes, to fail. People don’t try because they don’t want to fail. If you want to win, play it hard, not safe. Barbara Sher said, “When you play it too safe, you’re taking the biggest risks of your life. Time is the only wealth we’re given.” To succeed, you must take risks. If you fail, do it again.

Focus on the goodness within you

That is why you should always try to be around great people. When you are with great people, they will make you bigger than yourself. When you are with small-minded people, they will make you smaller than you really are.

To defeat people’s opinions of you, you must have the courage to focus on the goodness within you. You have it. All you need to do is to reconnect with your true self. Do not try to be good. You are great!

According to Eckhart Tolle, “You do not become good by trying to be good, but by finding the greatness that is already within you allowing that goodness to emerge.” You are already good. Do not try to convince other people to believe in you, in your dreams. Because other people cannot make you who you are not. Other people cannot give you what you cannot give yourself.

You already have what it takes to do great things in your life.

Focus on your inner stillness

You don’t here yourself because you do not listen to yourself. Your inner voice talks to you every day, but you never listen. You are always busy. You are always working, always jumping from place to place. You never find the time to listen to your inner voice.

Remember, you can’t hear if you do not listen. Eckhart Tolle said, “When you lose touch with inner stillness, you lose touch with yourself. When you lose touch with yourself, you lose yourself in the world.” It is good to listen to yourself. Do not be uncomfortable with yourself. When you connect with your inner life, you connect with your true self.