Tag: Commitment

4 Valuable Life Lessons From Tyler Perry

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We cannot control everything around us, but we can control ourselves. If we can control ourselves, then we can control everything within us. Do not worry about things you cannot control. Worry about yourself, your future, what you are doing. Worry about how you are going to nurture your seeds. The seeds of happiness. The seeds of joy. The seeds of love. The seeds of life. The seeds of becoming. If you can take care of them, if you can nurture your imagination, your future will take care of itself.

To live well, you must nurture yourself. And your life will get easier, according to Tyler Perry,

When you:

“Nurture your imagination with hard work, positive energy, ease, and self- encouragement.”- Tyler Perry, Higher is Waiting

If you do not encourage yourself, if you do not support yourself, no one is going to encourage you. If you want to suceed, be your own supporter.

“Life gets easier and happier when we let people be whoever they truly are. Stop expecting them to give you what they don’t have or don’t know how to give.”- Tyler Perry, Higher is Waiting

What you cannot give yourself, do not expect it from other people.

“When you know your worth, when you know your value, your life changes and you change lives.”- Tyler Perry, Higher is Waiting

When you know who you are, you know what you are worth. As a result, you do not settle for less than you are worth.

“Make a holy commitment to your beautiful self that you will only water the seeds of love, kindness, and self-worth, and you’ll let feelings of unworthiness wither on the vine.”- Tyler Perry, Higher is Waiting

Because love is life. Love is peace.

Because kindness is connection. Kindness is life.

Because self-worth is everything. Self-worth is you. Your self-worth is your life worth.

It is your inner life. It is your power. It is your inner energy.

If you do not have it, it is never to late to grow it.

If you are committed to it, you can grow it. You can develop it.

If you are willing to face yourself, you can grow your self-worth.

This Is What Happens When You Stop Talking

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Stop talking. It is listening time. It is time to let go of what you know. It is time to learn from other people. It is time to respect other people. Why is that? Because listening to others is a sign of respect.

When you listen to others, here are some of the things you are saying to them: I hear you. I love you. You are a human being. I respect you. Your problem is my problem. We are in this together. We will get through it together. I want to learn from you. You know what I do not know. You have something important to say. I value you. We can work together. You are the boss, not me. I want to hear your struggles. I want to learn from your successes. I want you to be free to express yourself. I don’t want you to hold anything back. I want you to help me become a better learner, a better listener, a better leader.

If you want to become a better person, you must first learn how to listen.

We learn more when we listen. We miss more when we talk.

According to Amy Cuddy, “When you stop talking, stop preaching, and listen, here’s what happens: People can trust you. … if you do not have people’s trust, you will find it very hard to influence them in a deep and lasting way. You acquire useful information, which makes it more easier to solve any problem you face. You begin to see other people as individuals- and maybe even allies. You no longer see other people as stereotypes. You develop solutions that other people are willing to accept and even adopt. When people contribute to the solutions- when they are co-owners of them- they are more likely to commit to and follow through with them. When people feel heard, they are more willing to listen. … If people don’t feel that you ‘get’ them, they are not inclined to invest their time and energy in activities- such as listening- that will help them to understand you.”

Just listen. Stop preaching. If you want others to hear you, you must first hear them.

Further Reading:

Cuddy, A., Presence: Bringing your BOLDEST SELF to your BIGGEST CHALLENGES (New York: Hachette Book Group, 2015): 78-81.