Overcoming Exclusion

Playing the game with unwritten rules means forming relationships with the right people at the right time.’

Knowing who the power players are in your organization is vital to your professional success. Nurture those relationships over time because they will become essential to your career advancement.’

Use your voice to tell other people what you want so they have the opportunity to help you achieve your goals.’

Preparing yourself means positioning yourself for the best career outcomes by letting others in positions of leadership and power in your organization know about your aspirations.’

You need to ensure that your reputation is that of someone who brings value to your organization.’

Whenever you are preparing to speak to individuals about yourself and your career or when you are just giving them the chance to get to know you, do your homework as early as possible. Always know as much as possible in advance about anyone you are going to talk with about your career, but also come prepared with answers about … your goals.’

Always make sure that your development plan is tied to the business outcomes of your organization. They should always be measurable for the current year.’

‘If you wait for permission to have discussions about your career or until the designated time when your organization has such discussions with their employees, it will be too late. Your career growth and development is not a once-a-year conversation, whether you are speaking to your direct managers or others.’

To achieve your goals, you have to know when you can completely be authentic, when you can be somewhat authentic, and when you cannot be authentic at all.’

The network that you develop through building meaningful relationships is one of the most powerful tools you will have in your career.’

A sponsorship relationship takes time and is built on both your actions and theirs.’

‘What are you known for in your organization?’

Source:

Francine Parham (2022). Please Sit Over: How to Manage Power, Overcome Exclusion, and Succeed as a Black Women at Work

Lead From Your Heart

Love can reveal itself in the simplest of ways– by giving someone hope or telling a person that he or she is important.’

Humility begins and ends with four magical words: It’s not about you. It isn’t about deflecting compliments or projecting false modesty- it’s about demonstrating that whom you love, whom you care about, and whom you lead is more important than what you accomplish.’

When strong leaders embrace human dignity and care enough about whom they lead, they truly make their people partners in the organization’s pursuit of success.’

Whatever your job, title, or role, a passionate belief in what you do is often the difference between success and failure.’

Self-serving leaders value personal goals and agendas over the needs of the team. Heart-led leaders think in the ‘we’, while self-serving leaders are all about the ‘me.”

When people respect a leader– the person, not the position- they enthusiastically follow- at home, at work, in your community, even on the golf course!’

Heart-led leaders have the self-awareness to understand who they are and what’s important to them. They can step outside of themselves, giving themselves the ability not to see their own strengths and weaknesses but also to make decisions about how best to live their lives and serve those around them.’

When you choose the harder right instead of the easier wrong– even when no one is looking- you are truly leading with your heart.’

Heart-led leaders understand that transparency is the fastest way to foster trust, build teams, and grow relationships.’

Harboring ill will or negative feelings toward someone not only clouds our memory but also crowds our heart. The only way to make room for love, empathy, and compassion is to push hate and resentment out.’

Empathy makes an act of kindness more than a transition.’

Nothing better reveals who you are more than how you give to others.’

Source:

Tommy Spaulding (2015). The Heart Led Leader: How Living and Leading from the Heart Will Change Your Organization and Your Life