James Allen said, “If men only understood that their hatred and resentment slays their peace and sweet contentment, hurts themselves, helps not another, does not cheer one lonely brother, they would seek the better doing of good deeds which leaves no ruing.”
It takes character to let go of resentment. Resentment does not hurt the other person. Resentment hurts you. It destroys your happiness. It hurts you. It takes your happiness away. But you can get yourself back.
Let resentment go. Don’t let resentment control you. You are better than resentment. You are better than hate. You are a child of Love. God loves you. No matter what you are going though in your life, do not complain. God is not a complainer. All you need to do is to focus on your life. Make peace with yourself. Because if you can’t make peace with yourself, you can’t make peace with others. And to make peace with yourself, with your soul, you must be in control of your life. Dale Carnegie said, “Any fool can criticize, condemn and complain- and most fools do. But it takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving.” It takes character to be forgiving. What about you?
To live a fulfilled life, you must accept yourself. Life is not about others; it is about you. So how you live it matters. It starts with self-acceptance. It starts with self-love. If you don’t accept yourself as you are, who do you think is going accept you?
To live a fulfilled life, according to Sophia Loren,
“Everything you live through helps to make you the person you are now.”
“I’ve never tried to block out the memories of the past, even though some are painful. I don’t understand people who hide their past.” Your past is a part of who you are. Whether good or bad, be proud of your past. You can’t write your story without your past. What you have been through in the past is a part of you. What you are going through right now is uniquely yours. If you can endure it, why not? If not, move on.
“It is better to explore life and make mistakes than to play it safe and not explore at all.” A life not explored is a life wasted. If you want to really live a fulfilled life, don’t be afraid to make mistakes. You can’t live your life without making one, two, three, or even four mistakes. If you don’t make mistakes, it means you are not exploring your life. It means you are not taking chances. It means you are ignoring opportunities. It means you are living in the past.
“I was blessed with a sense of my own destiny. I have never sold myself short. I have never judged myself by other people’s standards.” That is how you should live your own life too. Don’t live your life by other people’s standards. Live your life by your own standards. They are yours. Own them. No matter what, no matter what you are selling, you should never sell yourself short. In other words, you should never settle for less. Your destiny is in your hands. Don’t sell it short.
“I have always expected a great deal of myself, and if I fail, I fail myself. So failure or reversal does not bring out resentment in me because I cannot blame others for any misfortune that befalls me.” This is very important. Don’t ignore it. If you fail at something, take it. Accept it. Don’t blame others for your mistakes. It is your life. For this reason, you must ALWAYS hold yourself accountable for your failures or mistakes.