We please people to make them happy, to fit in, or to cover our insecurities. You must stop it. Love yourself the way you are. You are good enough. Don’t crave for love, give yourself love. Because you can’t make people like you. If they don’t like you, there is nothing you can do about it. Forget about their love. Your love for yourself is enough to make you happy for the rest of your life.
No one is perfect. No one is better than you.And you are not better than anyone. That is good enough. Don’t give up your values because you want people to like you. Don’t do it. According to Ryan Holiday,“We can seek progress without being perfectionists and we can be pragmatic without being unprincipled.” In other words, don’t give up your values just because you want to make people happy.
The more you please people, the more you harm yourself. You will never be happy with yourself. To stop people from manipulating you, you must believe in yourself. You must never be afraid to say NO to them. If you want to live your best life, you MUST be in charge of your life. The choice is yours.
I am breaking free from my people-pleasing mentality
Daily Inspiration with Bright
“If you want to live your best life, you must be in charge of your life.”
“Don’t compromise yourself- you’re all you have.”- John Grisham
“Imperfection is beauty, madness is genius-and it’s better to be absolutely ridiculous than absolutely boring.”- Marilyn Monroe
“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.”- Ralph Waldo Emerson
Can you please everyone? The answer is “NO.” Can you make everyone happy? The answer, again, is “NO.” Can you make yourself happy? The answer is a big “Yes!” How? By controlling what you focus on. You must control your mind. Because whatever you focus your mind on will grow. So do not focus on negative things. If you do, they will grow. Focus on positive things. If you catch yourself allowing negative thoughts into your mind, immediately replace them with positive thoughts. Is it easy? No. But you can do it. Try it and see what happens.
You cannot please everyone. Sometimes, it is possible. Other times, not so much. The problem is if you try to please everyone, you are putting yourself under pressure. You are designing yourself for a big disappointment. You are ignoring your needs and wants. We are human beings, right? We all have wants and needs, right? Don’t we?
The answer to your trying to satisfy everyone is to learn how to live a “balanced life.” So, what is a balanced life? Living a balanced life means your ability to take care of your needs and the needs of others without exhausting yourself to death.
When people ask you for help, if you can do it, say yes. If you can’t, say no. Don’t be scared to tell people how you feel. Your life is what we are talking about here. Take care of your inside before your outside. If you take proper care of your inside, your outside will take care of itself. Don’t please people to ruin your own life. You are important. They are important. Everyone is important. If they love you, they will understand your point. If they don’t, let them go.