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4 Easy Ways To Make Peace With Yourself

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Peace starts with you. To make peace with yourself, you must first make peace with your inner self, with your friends, and with every other things around you.

Yes, you can’t make peace with everybody, but you can make peace with yourself. You can choose yourself.

Yes, you can’t make everybody happy, but you can make yourself happy. Isn’t that good enough? Let’s find out.

Put other people first

Hafsat Abiola said, “Peace comes from being able to contribute the best that we have, and all that we are, toward creating a world that supports everyone. But it is also securing the space for others to contribute the best that they have and all that they are.” When you help other people, you are helping yourself. When you make other people feel complete, you are making yourself whole. When you work really hard to bring out the best in other people, you are bringing out the best in yourself.

Forgive. Forgive. Forgive.

Judith Butler said, “No matter what someone else has done, it still matters how we treat people.” Forgiveness is the key to positive relationships. It is also the key to a better life. It is hard to do, but if you can do it, freedom will come to you. No matter what people may have done to you, to move forward, you must first forgive them. No matter what you may have done to yourself, to live a better life, you must first forgive yourself. If not, you won’t be able to move forward in your life. Wendell Berry was right when he said, “To have peace you must make peace with your enemy.” To have peace, you must make peace with yourself.

Focus on what is important to you

According to Gautama Buddha, “This is peace, this is the excellent, namely the calm of all the impulses, the casting out of all ‘basis’, the extinction of craving, dispassion, stopping, Nirvana.” Focus on what makes you whole. Do not worry yourself about what didn’t go well. It is not the end of the world. Focus on how you are going to make it better next time. When you are at peace with yourself, everything will “flow with ease.” Remember that peace is not something you search for. Peace is something you make for yourself. It is something you create for yourself. It is a state of mind. Ralph Waldo Emerson once said, “Peace is to be found only within, and unless one find it there he will never find it at all.”

Be comfortable with who you are, not with what you have

Love is life. You are here to love yourself, not to beat yourself to the ground. Whether things are going well or not, still find some time to give yourself some love. Be comfortable with yourself. Love yourself. Before you can love anyone else, you must first love yourself. Believe in love. It is real. Love never disappoints. Robert Collier said, “Love never fails.” It is true. If you believe in love, it will never fail you. The question is, do you believe in the power of love?

6 Important Lessons From Rachel Hollis On How To Put Life Back Together

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As the old saying goes, “You can’t control what happens to you, but you can control how you react to it.” You can’t control life, but you can control your own life. Live your life. Do not destroy yourself just to make other people happy.

If you are not happy, it is because you are not brave enough to face your life. No matter what is going on out there, it is your responsibility to make yourself happy. If you can’t do it for you, who do you think is going to do it for you. If you are honest with yourself, the answer is you.

If you want to put your life together, here are some strategies, according to Rachel Hollis.

She says, “Don’t fear your weakness, fear drowning in despair for the rest of your time on earth because you were too afraid to confront your pain.” No matter what you are going through in your life, if you want to put your life together, do not “cover your pain to make other people more comfortable.”

She says, “If you want to move forward, be honest about what’s going on even if it’s only to yourself.” If you have the courage to be honest with yourself, that is good enough.

She says, “Stop trying to cover up your emotions, or, frankly, anything you don’t like about yourself or your feelings, with a new coat of paint. … But in order to do that, you’ve got to be real. You have to allow yourself to truly feel what you feel before you can feel what you’d like.” Allow yourself to be you, to express yourself. If you don’t express your God-given self, then what are you doing with it?

She says, “Have the courage to admit who you are, even if it’s only to yourself at first.” Have the courage to admit who you are to yourself, to your mnd, to your body, and to your soul. Why is that? To know others, you must first know yourself. If not, you are faking it. Do not fake your way through life. Live your way through life. Grow your way through life. Do not be scared to set boundaries for yourself. They work.

She says, “When one thing changes, everything changes, even if it takes you a bit to admit it and adjust.” When something changes in your life, you are no longer the same person. Change is important. See it as a blessing, not as a curse.

She says, “You are going to have to love yourself enough to seek help. You are going to have to love yourself enough to forgive yourself. You are going to have to love yourself enough to believe that you can be better, that you will be better, next time. You are also going to have to love yourself enough to walk away from anyone who weaponizes your guilt and uses it against you.” You have the power to do whatever you want. But to do that, you have got to be real with yourself.

Remember, according to Rachel Hollis, “You are an ever-evolving being who will continue to change over time.”