Never Go Back To These Ten Things, According to Dr. Henry Cloud

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''Never go back to what hasn't worked.' If you go back to what hasn't worked, you are not getting yourself closer to your dreams. Instead, you are going backward. 

''Never go back to doing something that requires you to be somebody else.' It is easier to be yourself than it is to be somebody else. The best person you can be is YOU. So do not even try to be who you are not. It won't work.

''Never go back to thinking you can change someone.' No, you can't. Do not waste your time. The only person you can change is you. What makes you think you can change someone else?

''Never go back to trying to please other people.' Do you think you have what it takes to please other people? No, you don't. Why is that? Because human beings are difficult. Our wants and needs are different. Instead of trying to please other people, why not please yourself?

''Never go back to avoiding short-term pain when it leads to long-term benefits.'' Do whatever you can to make your life better than it was yesterday. Do not avoid anything. Because it better to suffer now than to suffer later. 

'''Never go back to being taken in by someone or something that looks perfect.'' Before you accept anything from anyone, ask yourself, 'Is this good for me?' If you do not feel good about it, then don't do it. Why? Because we live in an imperfect world. No one is perfect. So learn how to live with yourself. 

''Never go back to losing the big picture.'' Do not forget where you are going. And do not let whatever is happening in your life right now take your attention away from your dreams. 

''Never go back to taking the easy path and failing to do due dilligence.'' If you want to be successful, there is no easy way to get there. You have got to take the hard road, the road that no one wants to take. If you take it, and you stick to it, success will come to you.

''Never go back to ignoring the part you play in being where you are.'' We all make mistakes. We all have done something that we are not proud of. Forgive yourself. And move on. You still have a chance to rewrite your story. 

''Never go back to forgetting that life is lived inside out.'' Success comes from your inner life. Happiness comes from your inner life. If you want to be successful, if you want to be happier, NEVER forget to nurture your inner life.