How To Build Your Life Around Self-Confidence

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You can’t build your life around fear. Fear is real, but do not let it stop you from doing what you want to do. Nothing is perfect. Do not wait to be perfect before you start something. You are not doing what you are supposed to be doing because you don’t want to fail. If you want to make it in life, you can’t avoid failure. If you are not failing, you are not trying hard enough. If you are not crying in your bedroom, you are not making enough mistakes. Dan Rockwell writes, “Imperfect progress today is better than perfect progress tomorrow.” Yes, it is better to make a mistake than to get stuck in a rut. To pursue your goals, don’t fear mistakes, fear not making enough. Build your success around making mistakes, not around fear. In fact, don’t wait for things to happen to you. Instead, get out of your comfort zone to make things happen for you. Yes, it can happen. You have done it before. Don’t doubt yourself. Believe in yourself. Build your life around self-love, self-confidence, not self-doubt. With self-confidence, you can really accomplish a lot of things in your life. Remember that you are in charge of your life. You can do whatever you say you can do. You can’t do whatever you say you cannot do. You can accomplish a lot in your life if you can just focus on the process, not on the results. Because learning is about the process, not about the results.

Growth Vs. Safety

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“You will either step forward into growth, or you will step backward into safety.”- Abraham Maslow

Life is about growth. Everything in life is growing. If you are not growing, what are you doing? Check what you are doing on a daily basis. Because how you live your day is exactly how you are living your life. If you don’t like the results, change what you do everyday. If you like it, continue doing it.

Since growth is so important to us, why do so many of us prefer safety over growth?

That has everything to do with who we are as human beings. People don’t like to change what they are comfortable with. You don’t even like to leave your bed in the morning, let alone doing something that you haven’t done before. We love to do what we are comfortable with. But the problem is, the more we do that, the more we will remain where we are. So to move forward, you must pursue growth, not safety. Because:

Growth is uncomfortable. Safety is comfortable.

Growth involves stretching yourself. Safety involves maintaining what you already know.

Growth is scary. Safety is status quo.

Growth is movement. Safety is the opposite.

Growth is change. Safety is the opposite.

Growth is living. Safety is dying.

Growth is forward. Safety is backward.

If you want to achieve your dreams, growth is the way.