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5 Ways To Stop Comparing Yourself To Others

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If you want to grow, you must stop comparing yourself to others. Instead of comparing yourself to others because they can do what you can’t do, why not focus on what you can do that they cannot do. We all have our strengths and weaknesses. No one is perfect.

Remember, life is not about trying to be perfect, but about trying to do your best.

Focus on what you are good at. Do not focus on what you cannot do. Because success comes from doing what you are really good at. Do not worry about who is doing what. With hard work, you can make your own dream happen.

Do what you know how to do. Take it to the next level. Do what you love to do, not what other people want you to do. Remember, you are not here to pursue other people’s dreams. You are here to pursue your own dreams. If you really want to stop comparing yourself to others, try these strategies:

You must trust yourself

It is really difficult to be you in a world that is trying to change you. No matter what, do not follow the crowd. You must follow your own heart. One reason so many people never listen to themselves is the fear of other people’s opinions.

Do not let other people’s opinions of you bother you. Instead of trying to convince other people to like you, why not concentrate on yourself, on your growth, on where you are going? That is what you should be doing. According to Leo Buscaglia, “The hardest battle you’re going to fight is the battle to be just you.” Conquer yourself, not others. If you can conquer yourself, you can conquer others.

You must understand yourself

Everything starts with understanding. LIfe is about understanding who you really are. If you do not understand yourself, you will find it really hard to understand other people. According to Nikki Giovanni, “If you don’t understand yourself, you don’t understand anybody else.” If you want to know other people, you must first know yourself. The question is, do you really know who you are?

You must focus on your purpose

Do not wait for the right time to act. Do not wait for the right time to start something. The reason you are here is to pursue your purpose. If you are not pursuing your purpose, you are just wasting your time.

Do not let anyone scare you away from your purpose. It is your purpose. It is the reason you are here. Whether you are chasing your purpose or not, your time on earth is limited. You are not going to be here forever.

So you must use the time you have to do great things, to change yourself, to change lives. Do not waste it. Barbara Sher said, “Time is the only wealth we’re given.” Use your time to pursue your purpose. It is your responsibility to pursue your purpose.

According to Mary Oliver, “Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life.” Yes, what are you really with your time? Who are the people around you? If you want to grow, you must surround yourself with great people. If not, you will never leave where you are.

You must live your life fearlessly

You are not going to be successful if you are waiting for everything to be perfect before you start something. You are not going to be successful if you do not have the courage to face your fears. If you want to succeed, you must face them. You must live your life fearlessly. You must have the courage to face yourself, to conquer yourself.

Because if you don’t have what it takes to conquer yourself, you are not going to be able to conquer others. You are not going to be able to live fearlessly. Henry J. Kaiser once said, “Live daringly, boldly, fearlessly. Take the relish to be found in competition- in having put forth the best within you.” If you don’t have the courage to face your future, don’t forget that your success is on the other side of fear. So if you want to be successful, you MUST grow the courage to face your fears.

You must follow your own dream

You must have a dream because if you don’t have a dream, you are going to be chasing other people’s dreams. Unless you have the courage to dream big dreams, you are not going to achieve your greatness. If you want to get to the next level, you must not fear to dream. Henry J. Kaiser once said, “I akways have to dream up against the star. If I don’t dream I will make it, I won’t even get close…”

You Don’t Need To Believe Other People’s Opinions, Just Believe In Yourself

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Opinions are just opinions. So why worry yourself about opinions? Do not do that. You are better than other people’s opinions of you. You are smarter than other people’s opinions of you. Let people say whatever they want about you. They don’t count. They don’t matter. But you matter. You count. And that is why you should focus on yourself. That is why you should stay focused on what you are doing, where you are going, and how to get there.

“If you want to achieve your dreams, do not focus on perfection.”

Do not fight people’s opinions of you. You are created to make a statement, not to gossip about other people’s lives. What other people are doing shouldn’t bother you. What you should be thinking about is what you are doing. Because if you don’t get it right, you will never achieve your dreams.

What you are doing right now matters more than other people’s opinions. Let them talk. While they are talking, you are walking. Do not doubt yourself. Do not question your abilities to get things done. If you believe you can do it, you can surely do it. If you believe in your dreams, you will surely get there. Believe in your life. Believe in yourself. Have faith in your abilities to get things done. Focus on what you can control, not what you cannot control.

Focusing on what you cannot control is like worrying about something that is not going to happen. You don’t know what is going to happen next. But what you do know is what you are doing right now, where you are right now, not where you are going.

So if you cannot control something, if you don’t know what is going to happen next, then why worry yourself about it? Do not worry yourself about what is beyond your power. You cannot control life. You cannot control everything, but you can control yourself. You cannot control everything, but you can control your responses to it.

If you want to achieve success in your life, focus on what you can control, not what you cannot control. If you want to achieve your dreams, focus on progress, not perfection. Will you do it for yourself?