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How To Build Your Life Around Self-Confidence

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You can’t build your life around fear. Fear is real, but do not let it stop you from doing what you want to do. Nothing is perfect. Do not wait to be perfect before you start something. You are not doing what you are supposed to be doing because you don’t want to fail. If you want to make it in life, you can’t avoid failure. If you are not failing, you are not trying hard enough. If you are not crying in your bedroom, you are not making enough mistakes. Dan Rockwell writes, “Imperfect progress today is better than perfect progress tomorrow.” Yes, it is better to make a mistake than to get stuck in a rut. To pursue your goals, don’t fear mistakes, fear not making enough. Build your success around making mistakes, not around fear. In fact, don’t wait for things to happen to you. Instead, get out of your comfort zone to make things happen for you. Yes, it can happen. You have done it before. Don’t doubt yourself. Believe in yourself. Build your life around self-love, self-confidence, not self-doubt. With self-confidence, you can really accomplish a lot of things in your life. Remember that you are in charge of your life. You can do whatever you say you can do. You can’t do whatever you say you cannot do. You can accomplish a lot in your life if you can just focus on the process, not on the results. Because learning is about the process, not about the results.

How To Learn From Failure

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Don’t be afraid to make mistakes. We all make mistakes. When you make a mistake, don’t beat yourself up for making it. Mistake is part of growth. Mistake is part of success. Mistake is part of life. Mistake is not a weakness; it is a strength. When you make yours, it means you are trying to make things happen. Do not let failure stop you from growing. Because if you don’t make enough mistakes, you won’t grow. Be bold. Don’t be afraid to learn about what you don’t know. Knowledge is never enough. Remember that we learn more from failure than from success. When you fail, try to learn everything that you possibly can about the situation. Ask yourself some critical questions. Ask yourself, what could I have done differently? Be honest with yourself when you are answering it. Do not hide anything from yourself. You want to live, to grow, right? If yes, hiding something important from yourself is not the right way to go. When you do that, you are pulling yourself backward. You are not pushing yourself forward. To grow, you need yourself. Don’t wait for people to come and push you. If you can, push yourself. If not, ask for help. And celebrate it when you get it. Be grateful. Say, “Thanks.”

When you make a mistake, do not hide it. Let your trusted friends know what happened. You can’t change what happened, but you can rewrite the story. You can recreate the situation. You can reinvent yourself. Don’t forget to ask yourself, “What can I take away from here?” Don’t attend any pity party. It won’t help you. It will hurt you even more. Just try to see it as a way to learn more about yourself. Make sure you really learn from your mistakes. Do not take it for granted. Because if you don’t learn from it, you will repeat it again. When you learn from your mistakes, it makes you stronger, not weaker. Be brave. Keep going. Learn from it. Make it a habit to always learn from your failures. If it doesn’t work, do it again.