Tag: Growing

You Get What You Plant

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Charles Reade once said, “Sow an act and you reap a habit. Sow a habit and you reap a character. Sow a character and you reap a destiny.” You can do whatever you set out to do in your life. But it begins with a single seed. You must plant your own seed in the ground. Do not just plant any seed, plant your own seed. If you plant love. you will reap love. If you plant happiness, you will reap happiness. If you plant hate, you will reap hate. Remember that we are what we plant. If you don’t like something, don’t plant it, don’t nurture it.

Do what you feel good about doing. Do what feels really good in your heart. Follow it with all your might. Don’t waste your time on doing things that are not nurturing your life. Don’t waste your time on people who don’t appreciate what you bring to the table. If they don’t appreciate you, don’t worry yourself about it, there are others who will never let you down. Don’t nurture a terrible relationship. It is not good for you.

If you nurture a terrible relationship, you will get a terrible relationship. According to Zig Ziglar, “What you see in others, exists in you.” If you see love in others, don’t hold yourself back, embrace it. If you see life in others, don’t hold yourself back, enjoy it, live it. We are one. We live separately, but together. We are all connected. So connect yourself with love, with happiness, with forgiveness. Don’t be afraid to let go of what you don’t like in your life. When something doesn’t fit you anymore, let it go. Do not sow the seed of attachment. Because life is not about attachment, but about letting go. It is not easy to let go, to forget things, to live without them. But if you can let things go, you will really feel good about yourself, because it allows you to live your real life. So if you want to live a peaceful life, you must learn how to let things go.

How To Learn From Failure

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Don’t be afraid to make mistakes. We all make mistakes. When you make a mistake, don’t beat yourself up for making it. Mistake is part of growth. Mistake is part of success. Mistake is part of life. Mistake is not a weakness; it is a strength. When you make yours, it means you are trying to make things happen. Do not let failure stop you from growing. Because if you don’t make enough mistakes, you won’t grow. Be bold. Don’t be afraid to learn about what you don’t know. Knowledge is never enough. Remember that we learn more from failure than from success. When you fail, try to learn everything that you possibly can about the situation. Ask yourself some critical questions. Ask yourself, what could I have done differently? Be honest with yourself when you are answering it. Do not hide anything from yourself. You want to live, to grow, right? If yes, hiding something important from yourself is not the right way to go. When you do that, you are pulling yourself backward. You are not pushing yourself forward. To grow, you need yourself. Don’t wait for people to come and push you. If you can, push yourself. If not, ask for help. And celebrate it when you get it. Be grateful. Say, “Thanks.”

When you make a mistake, do not hide it. Let your trusted friends know what happened. You can’t change what happened, but you can rewrite the story. You can recreate the situation. You can reinvent yourself. Don’t forget to ask yourself, “What can I take away from here?” Don’t attend any pity party. It won’t help you. It will hurt you even more. Just try to see it as a way to learn more about yourself. Make sure you really learn from your mistakes. Do not take it for granted. Because if you don’t learn from it, you will repeat it again. When you learn from your mistakes, it makes you stronger, not weaker. Be brave. Keep going. Learn from it. Make it a habit to always learn from your failures. If it doesn’t work, do it again.