This Is Why You Should Please Yourself, Not Others

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Don’t compromise yourself- you’re all you have.”- John Grisham

“Imperfection is beauty, madness is genius-and it’s better to be absolutely ridiculous than absolutely boring.”- Marilyn Monroe

“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.”- Ralph Waldo Emerson

Can you please everyone? The answer is “NO.” Can you make everyone happy? The answer, again, is “NO.” Can you make yourself happy? The answer is a big “Yes!” How? By controlling what you focus on. You must control your mind. Because whatever you focus your mind on will grow. So do not focus on negative things. If you do, they will grow. Focus on positive things. If you catch yourself allowing negative thoughts into your mind, immediately replace them with positive thoughts. Is it easy? No. But you can do it. Try it and see what happens.

You cannot please everyone. Sometimes, it is possible. Other times, not so much. The problem is if you try to please everyone, you are putting yourself under pressure. You are designing yourself for a big disappointment. You are ignoring your needs and wants. We are human beings, right? We all have wants and needs, right? Don’t we?

The answer to your trying to satisfy everyone is to learn how to live a “balanced life.” So, what is a balanced life? Living a balanced life means your ability to take care of your needs and the needs of others without exhausting yourself to death.

When people ask you for help, if you can do it, say yes. If you can’t, say no. Don’t be scared to tell people how you feel. Your life is what we are talking about here. Take care of your inside before your outside. If you take proper care of your inside, your outside will take care of itself. Don’t please people to ruin your own life. You are important. They are important. Everyone is important. If they love you, they will understand your point. If they don’t, let them go.

6 Empowering Samuel Smiles Quotes That Will Empower You To Greatness

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There is a place for everything.

“A place for everything, and everything in its place.”– Samuel Smiles

Wherever you are in your life, accept it. Don’t regret it. It is the right place for you to grow and be a better you. But to recognize it, you must pay attention to what is happening around you.

Good actions cures fear.

“Good actions gives strength to ourselves, and inspire good actions in others.”– Samuel Smiles

If you want to change your life, you must take action. Talk is cheap, but action is expensive. If you have the courage to take action, you can change what you don’t like about your life. If you want to cure fear, take action.

Don’t wait for people to help you. Take responsibility for your life.

“The spirit of self-help is the root of all genuine growth in the individual...”- Samuel Smiles

You need people to succeed in life. But if you are not ready to lift yourself up, you are going to wait forever. Don’t wait forever. You have what it takes to start the process. Just start!

Enthusiasm is the key to success

“Enthusiasm… the sustaining power of all great action.”– Samuel Smiles

Enthusiasm is a secret weapon. You know where it is. You know how to use it to your advantage. When things are dark, you call on it. Sometimes it answers you. Other times it fails you. But no matter what, enthusiasm is the key to success. If you have it, there is no mountain you cannot climb. But without it, you can’t even leave your bed. Enthusiasm is the way.

Help others to help yourself

“The duty of helping one’s self in the highest sense involves the helping of one’s neighbors.”- Samuel Smiles

In life, you always reap what you sow. So if you want your neighbor to be nice to you, you must sow the seeds of love. You must sow the seeds of happiness. You must sow the seeds of compassion. Why? Because whatever you send out into the world will come back to you. If you plant hate, you will receive hate. If you plant love, you will receive love. Any time, any day, love is better than hate. If you want to help yourself, help others. Love wins!

Life is what we ourselves make it.

Life will always be to a large extent what we ourselves make it.“- Samuel Smiles

You are the CEO of your life. You can live it the way you want. Life is about moving forward. If you want to move forward, be a forward thinker. Don’t focus on what is hurting you. Instead, you should focus on what is helping you. Life is about what is helping you versus what is hurting you. The choice is yours.