“Never does the human soul appear so strong as when it forgoes revenge, and dare forgive an injury.”- Edwin Hubbell Chapin, preacher
Forgiveness is freedom. When you forgive who hurt you, you are free. The other person is free, too.
Forgiveness is healing. When you forgive who hurt you, you are healing from the pain. You are healing from the past. You are healing into the present.
But one thing is clear: forgiveness is a hard thing to do, but if you can do it, you will be free forever. If you find yourself struggling to forgive someone, you are not alone. We are all in it together.
People find it difficult to forgive because they can’t let go of the feeling of resentment. They can’t forget the past. They think they are letting the person go unpunished.
Forgiveness does not mean that you are letting the person who hurt you go unpunished. It means you are letting yourself off the pain of the past. It means you are freeing yourself from bondage. It means you are now a mature person, meaning you are bigger than the person who hurt you.
Forgiveness is your choice. It is a choice between staying in the past or moving forward. It is a choice between letting go or continue to live in pain. It is a choice between being a victim or a victor. Forgiveness takes time. It is a process. Don’t rush into it. Take your time to forgive and forget.
Forgiveness is letting go of the past. If you let go of the past, if you forget the past, then you can focus on the moment. But if you keep living in the past, if you keep dwelling on what happened yesterday, you will miss what is happening right now. Don’t let resentment steal your happiness away from you. Don’t let resentment steal your destiny away from you. Resentment is toxic. It is worse than cancer. Resentment allows us to continually live in pain. Resentment is dangerous to your health and well-being, so get rid of it.
Reinhold Niebuhr, theologian, said, “Forgiveness is the final form of love.” You cannot love someone unless you have forgiven him or her. Forgiveness is hard, but if you can do it, you are free forever. Enjoy your freedom!
You cannot control what people do to you. You cannot control how people treat you. You cannot control how they react to you. People react the way they do because they see the world differently. They don’t see the world the way you do. They don’t think the way you do. They view the world through a different lens. They have the right to behave the way they behave. They have the right to act the way they act. They have the right to treat you the way they do. It is their choice. Choice matters.
You cannot control people’s behavior, but you can control how you react to them. You can control yourself. You can control your emotions. If people treat you in a bad way, you have the choice to treat them in a positive way or in a negative way. If people treat you in a bad way, don’t fight back with anger, resentment, but with love.
Instead of fighting back with resentment or anger, try to understand why they are behaving the way they do. They have reasons behind their actions- whether they are accepted or unaccepted. It is not good to fight back with anger because you don’t know what they are going through in life. We are all fighting something in life. We are all going through something in life. If people treat you in a bad way, don’t jump to conclusion, try to understand where they are coming from. If you take the time to know them, you will see that they are not as terrible as you have imagined them to be. People are naturally good, but they don’t know how to show it to others.
When people are acting in weird ways, don’t criticize them. Try to find out who they are, where they are coming from, how they have been living their lives, and what they have gone through in life. When you know where people are coming from, it is easier for you handle them. Sometimes when people are acting out, they are not acting to hurt you. They are fighting with themselves, not you. Learn not to take things personal. If you take things personal, you are hurting yourself. But if you don’t take things personal, you will not be impacted by them.
Dr. Wayne Dyer said, ” How people treat you is their karma; how you react is yours.” It does not matter how people treat you, but how you react to it matters.