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You Don’t Need This Person In Your Life

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It does not matter where you are, what you are doing, where you are going, you do not need someone who is constantly putting you down, who is never for you, who does not support your dreams, who always talk you out of your dreams, who never sees anything positive in your life.

If you want to grow yourself, you need someone who is not afraid to tell you what you need to hear, not what you want to hear.

Do not hang out with negative people, with toxic people, with people who are not going anything, who are not doing anything to improve their lives, to change their situations, to position themselves for greatness.

In his book Higher is Waiting, Tyler Perry wirites, “Is there someone in your life who is contantly putting you down, triggering your feelings of inadequacy? You don’t need this person. Ask yourself, “Why am I staying?”

Yes, why are you still in a terrible marriage? Why are you still with a terrible boss? Why are you still hanging out with lazy people? Why?

No matter what you are going through right now, if you do not stand up for yourself, people will abuse you. If you do not love yourself, people will abuse you. People will feed you with the food you don’t want to eat. They will feed your heart with the wrong words.

Do not worry about who is for you or who is against you. If you are for yourself, if you know what you want for yourself, if you do not live for others, you can make your life work for you, not against you. If no one is for you, be for yourself. That is good enough. Yes, it is.

“God Never Hurries.” Here Is Why?

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A. W. Tozer said, “God never hurries. There are no deadlines against which he must work. Only to know this is to quiet our spirits and relax our nerves.”

Look, you can run all you like. You are not a machine. You are a human being. As a human being, you will do better if you have the courage to stop, relax, and think.

Productivity is not about running; it is about resting. You will perform better if you have the courage to rest. No matter what you are doing, take some time to relax, to reconnect with yourself.

If it is possible, strive for a balanced life. In his book The Art of Being: 101 Ways to Practice Purpose in Your Life, Dennis Merritt Jones writes, “Some people devote so much time to their work and making lots of money that they forget what it means to play, relax, and spend time with loved ones. Others play so much that they don’t know what it is to work.”

It does not matter what you do, do not choose your work over your life. Forget about the salary. If you die, the company will replace you with another person.

You are the best because you are alive. You are still useful. Yes, you love your work. Yes, you MUST love your life more than your work, no matter how powerful. Seek a balanced life. Dennis Merritt Jones was right when he said, “Living a balanced life will produce a life of wholeness and deep inner peace.” If you think living a balanced life is not enough for you, then ask yourself, “How free am I in my everyday life, really?”

Further Reading:

Jones, D. M., The Art of Being: 101 Ways to Practice Purpose in Your Life (New York: Penguin Group, 2008): 66-67, 88.