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This Is Why You Should Please Yourself, Not Others

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Health & Well-Being
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“Don’t compromise yourself- you’re all you have.”- John Grisham

“Imperfection is beauty, madness is genius-and it’s better to be absolutely ridiculous than absolutely boring.”- Marilyn Monroe

“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.”- Ralph Waldo Emerson

Can you please everyone? The answer is “NO.” Can you make everyone happy? The answer, again, is “NO.” Can you make yourself happy? The answer is a big “Yes!” How? By controlling what you focus on. You must control your mind. Because whatever you focus your mind on will grow. So do not focus on negative things. If you do, they will grow. Focus on positive things. If you catch yourself allowing negative thoughts into your mind, immediately replace them with positive thoughts. Is it easy? No. But you can do it. Try it and see what happens.

You cannot please everyone. Sometimes, it is possible. Other times, not so much. The problem is if you try to please everyone, you are putting yourself under pressure. You are designing yourself for a big disappointment. You are ignoring your needs and wants. We are human beings, right? We all have wants and needs, right? Don’t we?

The answer to your trying to satisfy everyone is to learn how to live a “balanced life.” So, what is a balanced life? Living a balanced life means your ability to take care of your needs and the needs of others without exhausting yourself to death.

When people ask you for help, if you can do it, say yes. If you can’t, say no. Don’t be scared to tell people how you feel. Your life is what we are talking about here. Take care of your inside before your outside. If you take proper care of your inside, your outside will take care of itself. Don’t please people to ruin your own life. You are important. They are important. Everyone is important. If they love you, they will understand your point. If they don’t, let them go.

Why You Need To Think For Yourself

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Personal Growth
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“To find yourself, think for yourself.”- Socrates

Don’t worry about what other people are saying about you. They are irrelevant. What really counts is what you think about yourself. How you see yourself. What you say to yourself. Yes, it is okay to listen to people (good and bad people), but don’t let what they are saying about you engulf or prevents you from enjoying your life.

Think for yourself. Make your own critical decisions. Don’t delegate your personal decisions to anyone. They are not qualified to handle them. The only person who is ready to handle your personal decision is YOU.

Remember, no matter what you do (good or bad), people will always have negative or positive things to say about you. Don’t let that distract you. Don’t let that prevent you from enjoying yourself. Don’t let that hold you back from achieving your dreams.

You must think for yourself. If you want happiness in your life, you must think for yourself. If you want to grow, you must learn to think for yourself. If you want to build positive relationships, you must think for yourself. If you want to change your life, you must think for yourself. If you don’t, people will think for you. And when they do, you are not going to be happy with what you will get. But you can change it by thinking for yourself. It requires confidence. It requires courage. It requires hope. It requires compassion. It requires focus.

Focus on your own business. Focus on your life. It matters. It is all you have.  Stay away from people who want to tear you down. To do that, you must be able to think for yourself.