If You Want To Find Yourself, You Must Stop Pleasing People

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Help people, but don’t please them. Why are you wasting your time to please people? Why? You need people to help you succeed in your life. Pleasing people is not the right way to get there. Pleasing people is not the right way to build a positive relationship. Some people will like you for who you are; others will hate you for who you are. Don’t worry. Keep moving forward. Your life is not in their hands. You must focus on making yourself better.

You say yes to everything. You can’t say no to people. You don’t want to let people down. You want people to like you. You want to fit in. You care about what other people think of you. You want to look good in the eyes of other people. You don’t want people to reject you. Wow!

“Please all, and you will hurt yourself.”

Know this: “Until you start saying yes to yourself, you will never find yourself. Until you stop pleasing people, you will never know your true self.

In reality, when you don’t focus on yourself, you are stopping yourself from moving forward. You are stopping yourself from growing. You are stopping yourself from building a meaningful life. To stop that, you must be comfortable with who you are. You must practice your core values. Let your values guide your life. Aesop said, “Please all, and you will please none.” Please yourself to grow yourself. Please all, and you will hurt yourself.

Breaking Free From People-Pleasing Mentality

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We please people to make them happy, to fit in, or to cover our insecurities. You must stop it. Love yourself the way you are. You are good enough. Don’t crave for love, give yourself love. Because you can’t make people like you. If they don’t like you, there is nothing you can do about it. Forget about their love. Your love for yourself is enough to make you happy for the rest of your life.

No one is perfect. No one is better than you.And you are not better than anyone. That is good enough. Don’t give up your values because you want people to like you. Don’t do it. According to Ryan Holiday, “We can seek progress without being perfectionists and we can be pragmatic without being unprincipled.” In other words, don’t give up your values just because you want to make people happy.

The more you please people, the more you harm yourself. You will never be happy with yourself. To stop people from manipulating you, you must believe in yourself. You must never be afraid to say NO to them. If you want to live your best life, you MUST be in charge of your life. The choice is yours.

I am breaking free from my people-pleasing mentality

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“If you want to live your best life, you must be in charge of your life.”