Who Are The People You Spend The Most Of Your Time With?

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We are not alone. We don’t live our lives alone. We live our lives with people. We play with people. We love people. We eat with people. We study with people. We are part of something bigger than ourselves.

What is that thing that is bigger than yourself? Is it a true friend? Is it a loving relationship? Or is it living your life the way you want it? Whatever it is that is bigger than yourself, that is where your soul is.

Live with your soul. Do not be afraid to choose the people you associate yourself with. Because you are who you associate yourself with. As Miguel De Cervantes famously said, “Tell me thy company, and I’ll tell thee what thou art.” Tell me who your friends are, I will tell you where you are going. Tell me the people you associate yourself with, I will tell you your next step. This is quiet simple, but difficult to follow.

If you want to do great things, follow great doers. If you want to change the world, follow people who are changing the world. If you want to become the person you were created to be, follow your heart. If you want to be loved, follow loving people. If you want to be happy, follow happy people. Don’t waste your time hanging around negative people. Don’t forget that we get what we attract into our lives. So if you want great people to come into your life, you must always think about great people. Because you get what you sow.

Don’t try to keep people who are not adding anything to your life. It doesn’t matter who they are, don’t just keep them. They are going to confuse you. They are going to try to make you live the way they live. They are going to try to convince you that your dream is not good enough. You will hear something like this: “It is not new. Other people are doing it.” When you hear something like that, don’t nurture it. Don’t even think about it. Just let it die. It is not yours. It is for them. It belongs to them.

That is why you should pick your friends carefully. Yes, pick your friends carefully. Some people pretend to be for us, but in reality, they are not for us, they are against us. They don’t want you to move past them. They don’t want you to have what they have. They don’t want you to know what they are doing, where they are going, what their dreams are. You have to be really careful of the places you go to. I am not saying you shouldn’t enjoy your life. Enjoy your life. But do it with people who are lifting you up, not putting you down. Because living is going up, not going down. Are you going up or down?

You Get What You Plant

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Charles Reade once said, “Sow an act and you reap a habit. Sow a habit and you reap a character. Sow a character and you reap a destiny.” You can do whatever you set out to do in your life. But it begins with a single seed. You must plant your own seed in the ground. Do not just plant any seed, plant your own seed. If you plant love. you will reap love. If you plant happiness, you will reap happiness. If you plant hate, you will reap hate. Remember that we are what we plant. If you don’t like something, don’t plant it, don’t nurture it.

Do what you feel good about doing. Do what feels really good in your heart. Follow it with all your might. Don’t waste your time on doing things that are not nurturing your life. Don’t waste your time on people who don’t appreciate what you bring to the table. If they don’t appreciate you, don’t worry yourself about it, there are others who will never let you down. Don’t nurture a terrible relationship. It is not good for you.

If you nurture a terrible relationship, you will get a terrible relationship. According to Zig Ziglar, “What you see in others, exists in you.” If you see love in others, don’t hold yourself back, embrace it. If you see life in others, don’t hold yourself back, enjoy it, live it. We are one. We live separately, but together. We are all connected. So connect yourself with love, with happiness, with forgiveness. Don’t be afraid to let go of what you don’t like in your life. When something doesn’t fit you anymore, let it go. Do not sow the seed of attachment. Because life is not about attachment, but about letting go. It is not easy to let go, to forget things, to live without them. But if you can let things go, you will really feel good about yourself, because it allows you to live your real life. So if you want to live a peaceful life, you must learn how to let things go.