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How To Live Your Life Without Losing Yourself

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Health & Well-Being, Leadership, Management, Personal Development
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Whether you like it or not, you are responsible for your life. You are responsible for your future. Yes, you don’t have the power to change everything. But you do have the power to change yourself. That is what life is all about.

Life is all about change. The question is, ‘Are you changing to grow, or are you fighting to fit in?

The problem with change is that people change to fit in, not to grow. People change to make other people feel good about themselves, not to change what is not working for them.

Real change is about growth, not about trying to fit in. If that is you, you are not changing; you are holding yourself back. You are going to lose your own identity if you do not have the courage to challenge life, to live your life for yourself. You won’t be able to build your life if you do not have the courage to prepare yourself for your own greatness, for your own success. Remember, growth requires change. Success requires change. Life requires change.

If you want to stay in the game, you have got to embrace change. Embrace mistakes as sources of learning. Embrace where you are right now. Embrace change. Don’t get scared when change is in front of you. Do not run away from change. Because if you do, your situation will never change. You will get stuck in your own self-created rut.

If you want to get out of your own rut, you have got to embrace change. You have got to take risks. You have got to get out of your comfort zone. Because no one can move forward without embracing change. No one can do great things without embracing where they are. No one can make progress without first making peace with themselves.

And to make peace with yourself, you must first make peace with your soul. When your soul is happy, you are happy. Make peace with those around you. Because no one makes it alone in life. Accept what you can do. Because you are good at something. Accept what you cannot do. Because no one can do everything.

When things change, you change. Don’t stay the same. Don’t pray for things to go back to normal. You adapt. You live. Change yourself. Change when things are changing. You do not have to wait for the perfect time to reinvent yourself. You can do it anytime. The best time to change your life is when you are doing well, not when you are in trouble. The second best time to change your life is when things are running like a well-oiled machine. Don’t wait. Because life is not waiting. Time is not waiting. People are not waiting. Why are you waiting? What are you waiting for?

How To Manage Poor Performance At Work

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in BriSights, Health & Well-Being, Leadership, Management, Personal Development, Workplace Learning
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People want to grow. People want to do well. They want to do bigger things.

As a leader, you are there to help your people grow. You are there to lift them up, not to bring them down.

If your people are not doing well, work with them, not against them. Be real with them. According to Sylvia Lafair, ‘When one person is willing to be authentic, he or she gives space for others to risk telling their truth also.’

Work with your people, not against. Why is that? Because ‘system thinking makes everyone accountable, and there is no one person to blame.’

Focus on what is not working for you and your people. Improve what is not working. And do more of what is working. Because ‘by taking the time to understand and work on patterns, you open yourself up to opportunities and ways of being that you never considered before.’

‘You achieve freedom when you take conscious responsibility to individuate, both on a personal and on a professional level.’

Don’t forget your culture. As a leader, you are responsible for creating a better place for your people to work. ‘Organizations benefit when they examine their entire culture to understand and address the source of dysfunction with an enlightened, compassionate approach.’

Don’t ignore yourself. What do I mean by that? When you ignore yourself, you ignore your inner self. Your inner voice is your inner master. Why is it important to listen to your inner voice? According to Sylvia, ‘Listening to your inner voice gives you power over repeating thoughts. Once you become comfortable with this part of yourself, you can begin to ask yourself different kinds of questions, breakthrough questions that will lead to new and innovative ‘aha’ ideas.’

Open your mind to new opportunities. To do that, you must be willing to learn new things. ‘Being open to learning about yourself at work can increase your overall skill base as well as your creativity.’

Remember, to fix what you are going through in your life, you must revisit where you are coming from- your past. When it comes to growth, ‘the best, most fruitful thing we can do is tackle our past head-on, grapple with it, and finally accept it.’

Accept yourself. When you accept yourself as you are, only then can you accept what you are doing- your work. ‘You become whole by owning the parts of yourself you would rather ignore.’

Accept what is not working for you. Don’t sweep it under your rug. It is only when you face what you are struggling with that you can do something about it. ‘Once you claim the healthy opposite of your outmoded patterns, you can develop an action plan that is accurate and effective.’

‘Listen more than you talk. ‘To develop new ways of listening and responding means thinking systematically, asking probing questions, and sharing your observations.’

Source

Sylvia Lafair (2009). Don’t Bring It To Work: Breaking the Family Patterns that Limit Success