8 Simple Tips To Find True Happiness In Life, According To Epictetus

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When you have decided to do something, always try to do your best work.

When you have decided that a thing ought to be done, and you are doing it, never shun being seen doing it, even though the multitude should be likely to judge the matter amiss. For if you are not acting rightly, shun the act itself; if rightly, however, why fear misplaced censure.”- Epictetus

Do not ignore your goals. You must do what you have to do to make your dreams come true.

“First, say to yourself what you would be; and then do what you have to do.”- Epictetus

No thing great is created suddenly

“No thing great is created suddenly, any more than a bunch of grapes or a fig. If you tell me that you desire a fig, I answer you that there must be time. Let it first blossom, then bear fruit, then ripen.”- Epictetus

You are responsible for your own happiness

“If any be unhappy, let him remember that he is unhappy by reason of himself alone.”-Epictetus

Never stop learning

“For it is impossible for a man to begin to learn what he has a conceit that he already knows.”- Epictetus

Choose your friends wisely

“Try to enjoy the great festival of life with other men.”- Epictetus

You are the master of your own life.

“Thou shalt not blame or flatter any.”- Epictetus

Do not worry yourself about things not in your control

“Some things are in our control and others not. Things in our control are opinion, pursuit, desire, aversion, and, in a word, whatever are our own actions. Things not in our control are body, property, reputation, command, and, in one world, whatever are not our own actions.”- Epictetus

There Are No Limitations To What You Can Do To Change Your Direction

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Life has the best things in store for you. There are no limits to what you can do. Life has enough resources for everybody. But you are responsible for making your own dreams. Nothing is coming to you without fighting for it. You’ve got to get out there and fight for your dreams. Creativity is free. You can turn your life around if you are willing and ready to pay the price.

Stop limiting yourself. Whatever may have happened to you in the past, let it go. Forget about it. That is not where you should be right now. You are living in today, not yesterday. You can only live in the present. You can’t live in the past. You can’t live in the future. But you can live in the moment. People live in the past because it is comfortable and easier to do than to face reality. To move forward, you must stop living in the past. You must stop beating yourself up. It doesn’t worth it. You deserve more than what you are giving to yourself. You deserve love, happiness, peace of mind, and a balanced life.

Don’t limit yourself by your past mistakes, disappointments, and failures. It is okay to make mistakes. If you are not making enough mistakes, you are just dragging through life. You are not growing. You are not doing new thing. If you are not doing new things, you are not adding value to your life. The only good thing you can do with your mistakes is to learn from them. Think positively about them. But do not dwell on them. Get away from “I wish I could have done something differently” statement. It won’t help you. It will hurt you.

You have done a lot of good things in your life. Those are the things you should be thinking about. Because the more you think about good things, the more good things you will attract into your life. The same is true for negative things. The more you occupy your mind with negative things, the more negative things you will attract into your life. It is not good to focus on what you have done wrong in the past. It is not good to focus on what has not been working well for you. Instead of doing that, you can focus your energy and time on what has been going well for you. You can do more for yourself. All you need to do is to retrain your mind. Because you can’t use a negative mind to change yourself. But you can use a positive mind to change yourself.

The more you think positively about yourself, the closer you are to where you want to be. Don’t limit yourself by your own thoughts. Negative thoughts beget negative actions. Positive thoughts beget positive actions. Take charge of your life. You are in charge. According to Brian Tracy, “You are the architect of your own destiny; you are the master of your own fate; you are behind the steering wheel of your own life. There are no limitations to what you can do, have, or be. Except the limitations you place on yourself by your own thinking.” If you have the courage to drive your own car, you will get to where you want to be. But if you allow other people to drive you, you will never get to where you want to be. Don’t limit yourself. Don’t limit your own life by your thoughts. To stop that, be mindful of what you think about every day. If you can control your thoughts, you can control your life. Because you are the master of your own life.