“Define your terms, you will permit me again to say, or we shall never understand one another.“- Voltaire, poet
“Define your terms.” Tell people how to treat you. You own your life. If you don’t have the courage to tell people how to treat you, they will abuse you. Do not settle for less. And do not be afraid to ask for what you want.
Dr. Phil says, “We teach people how to treat us.” We do it every day. We shut up instead of speaking up. You can make a choice today. To do that, you must first know what you want, your values, and where you are going. If not, it won’t work. And they will continue to tell us how to live our lives. Do you want that for yourself? I don’t.
My friend, believe it or not, you are making things hard for yourself. Things happen to us for a reason. Nature does not make things hard for us. Nature makes things authentic, real , and beautiful.
Don’t engage yourself in a fight that you cannot win. Pick what you can do, do it very well. Don’t pick what you cannot do. If you do, you are making things really difficult for yourself. Life is not hard. Life is not difficult if you know how to live it. Life is yours to enjoy, not to abuse. Life is your to share, not to hide. Life is yours to celebrate, not to endure. Life is yours to make happen, not to waste. Life is sweet, not bitter.
According to Anthony de Mello, “Life is easy, life is delightful. It’s only hard on your illusions, your ambitions, your greed, your cravings.” We make things difficult for ourselves. We make life hard for ourselves because we don’t know how to live it. We pay attention to the wrong things. We think the wrong thoughts. We don’t pursue our dreams, but other people’s dreams. We ignore our needs, wants, and concerns. Instead, we make other people happy. We choose material things over our own spiritual life. That is not a life. That is not the way forward. Instead, it is the way backward. Life is still easy. You can make it even easier for yourself.
How? Don’t search for happiness; happiness is already in you. Just connect with it. Don’t take what doesn’t belong to you. Help other people, but don’t carry them. Be grateful for what you have. Live your life in your own way. Don’t stress yourself over the little things. But don’t ignore them. You need the little guys to get to where you are going to. Above all, don’t try to be who you are not. That is deadly! Don’t do it. It is comfortable to do, but don’t do it. No matter how hard, be your REAL self. Even if other people don’t like you, but if you like yourself, that is good enough.