Tag: Control

What You Need To Know About Your Career

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Workplace Learning

Remember that you are responsible for your career. If you want to grow your career, you must take action to make it happen.

If you do not do it for yourself, no one is going to craft it for you.

According to Tessa White, ‘If you want something, don’t come at it from why you want it. Come at it from why the company benefits from it.’

‘You are part of the problem. You could have a better work experience if both you and your manager were communicating.’

‘It’s easy to think that everyone else in the workplace can’t communicate, but I’m convinced you are part of the problem.’

‘The conversations you are avoiding are the exact conversations that can give you back a sense of control at work.’

There is nothing as humbling as realizing your blind spot limited your view of the one person thought you knew best of all- yourself.’

‘Every single piece of feedback you hear about yourself, whether neutral or negative, needs to be taken seriously. It’s a wastered-down version of how you are actually perceived.’

‘If your manager hasn’t indicated you are a top performer, you aren’t one. Top talent gets told they are top talent.’

‘Walk through the front door of feedback instead of waiting for it to come to you.’

‘Go where the low-hanging fruit is. Pick the gaps where you can win.’

‘If you want to gain influence in your company, become the expert of your industry, your competitors, and your company. It doesn’t require an advanced degree. It requires only your curiosity.’

‘You won’t have influence until you stop believing it’s everyone else’s job to figure everything out.’

‘You won’t grow in your career if you can’t get comfortable with conflict.’

‘Don’t make the mistake of thinking it’s the wrong job because it’s hard.’

‘The mistakes you make will feel big, but they are a great education you’ll carry into roles where the stakes are even higher.’

‘You have accountability for results by working with people you don’t manage and who may not be incentivized to cooperate with you. It’s like herding cats, except the cats have to actually go in the same direction.’

‘If you don’t champion for what you need, you won’t get what you need.’

If you want your career to grow, you must take action to make it happen. And you can make it happen. Do not give in to fear.

What To Do When Things Go Wrong

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development
Photo by Brett Jordan on Pexels.com

Are you trying to control the world around you? Are you trying to control other people? Or are you trying to be perfect, to make everything perfect?

If you try, you are just planning to fail, not to succeed. Why is that? Because you are a human being. No matter how smart you are, you are not going to be able to make everything perfect. It won’t happen.

If you try to do it, you are just frustrating yourself. You are making yourself mad. You are not being nice to yourself. You are not being kind to yourself.

So when things go wrong, do not beat yourself up. Don’t say things like, ‘I am an idiot. I am not smart enough. Why me?’ When you say things like these to yourself, your brain is hearing you. And your brain will make them possible for you.

When things go wrong, remember that you are a human being, an imperfect being. Be nice to yourself. When you are nice to yourself, you say, ‘everything is going to be alright.’ You don’t beat yourself up. You don’t tear yourself down. You say positive things to yourself. You say, ‘I am not my mistakes. I am not my failures. I am a learner. I am not perfect.’

When you stay positive, when you look at your mistakes as learning chances, it makes them easier to manage. It focuses your attention on what you can do better next time. It stops you from reaping yourself apart. It stops you from being unkind to yourself. And it reminds you that it is okay to mess up.

Finally, when things go wrong, remind yourself that you are not a failure, that you are learning, still learning, that it is okay to mess up, and that you are not going to give up on yourself, no matter what.

As always, you are more, not less!