How To Not Lose Yourself While Finding Your Own Path

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‘… if you’re uncomfortable with something, it’s because it isn’t right. Discomfort is the human response to a questionable or bad situation, whether that’s working long hours with no end in sight, exaggerating your business numbers to impress investors, or selling intimate user data to advertisers. If you get into the habit of suppessing all discomfort, you’re going to lose yourself, your manners, and your morals.’– jason Fried & David Heinemeier Hansson

Discomfort is a message. If you want to know what is going on in your life, you must pay attention to what you are feeling. Do not ignore your feelings.

Do not pretend that things are alright. Because things don’t get better by themselves. If you want things to change, you must, according to Ray Dalio, know ‘how reality works.’ Know what you want. Know what you do not want. Know what you can do. And know what you cannot do.

Do not say no to everything. And do not say yes to everything. Just focus on what makes sense to you. If something is good, do more of it. If you do not feel good about something, don’t do it.

Say ‘no’ to what is not relevant to you. Because, according to Jason and David, ‘When you say no to one thing, it’s a choice that breeds choices. When you say yes to one thing, you’ve spent that choice.’

The question is, ‘What are you saying no to?’ And what are you saying yes to?

Simplify Your Friendships

‘When you simplify your friendships, you are well on your way to leading a richer, fuller, more joy-filled life.’– Bill Hybels

Life is about people. It is about making the right connections. It is not about surrounding ourselves with the wrong people.

Follow great people. But stay away from the wrong ones. Why?

Because great people make you better. They make you bigger than you really are. If you are with people who are always taking from you, they are not the right ones for you.

If you are always giving, they are always taking, then you have got to look elsewhere for better people.

Be comfortable with who you are. Why is that important?

Because if you are not okay with yourself, you won’t be okay with others.