Tag: Positive Relationship

How To Build Extraordinary Relationships

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in BriSights, Health & Well-Being, Leadership, Management, Personal Development, Workplace Learning
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Life is about relationships. We live with people, not with facts. We work with people, not with facts.

We love people, not facts. We grow with people, not with facts. We depend on others for progress, not on facts. We go to places with people, not with facts.

We get better when we connect with other people, not when we connect with facts. According to Andrew Sobel and Jerold Panas, ‘… facts and figures might be an important part of work, but they don’t take you to the highest level of relationship building.’

If you want your success to happen faster than you think, you must focus on people, not on facts.

‘Facts don’t change people. People change facts.’

‘You build strong relationship through great conversations, not one person showing the other how much they know.’ If you don’t care about other people, they don’t care how much you know.

If you are serious about building great relationships with great people, don’t focus on yourself, focus on them. Talk with them, not to them. You know people better when you are interested in them, when you love them for who they are, not for what they can do for you.

‘Follow the person, not the position.’

Work well with everybody. Because you don’t know who has the power to change your life. Don’t just focus on those with titles. Focus also on those who are doing the dirty work. They are human beings. When you put people first, they will put you first.

‘The greatest gift is to believe in someone.’

To believe in other people, you have got to believe in yourself. Why is that? Because no one can give what one doesn’t have. If you don’t believe in yourself, no will believe in you.

‘Know the other person’s agenda and help them accomplish it.’

When it comes to building great relationships, do not forget to think about what the other person wants to achieve. Always ask yourself, ‘What is in it for the other person?’ When you help people get what they want, they will help you get what you want.

‘Integrity isn’t important- it’s everything.’

Your integrity is who you are. It is how you live your life. It is what you do, how you do it, and why you do it. Your integrity is what you say, how you say it, and why you say it. If you want to keep it alive, you have got to be yourself.

Integrity is not about trying to be like another person. Integrity is about being you, no matter what.

‘Walk in the other person’s shoes.’

Empathy matters. Because you do not know what the other person is going through in his or her life. To know, don’t assume, ask. Don’t try to impose your values on people. Because they are human beings. Human beings go through things, things that you don’t know. If you want to really connect with another person, you must first get to know what is going on in the other person’s life.

‘Don’t be put off by an awkward start- find something personal that connects you and you may develop a wonderful relationship.‘

If you want to build a great relationship with another person, another different human being, you have got to learn to take things easy. Do not take things personally. Because it is not about you. It is what is going on in the other person’s life. Be patient. Because if you are not being patient with yourself, you will miss the point. And the relationship won’t work.

‘Give trust to get trust.’

Trust is the beginning of all great things. Distrust is the beginning of all failures. When it comes to building relationships with other people, trust is everything.

‘Change the environment and you’ll deepen the relationships.’

Whether you are dealing with your clients, your coworkers, or your friends, when you change where you are, the things you do will change, how you do them will change. What you talk about will be different. The people you talk to will be different. And how you see the world will be different. And what you know will increase.

And your life will never be the same again.

Source

Andrew Sobel and Jerold Panas (2014). Power Relationships: 26 Irrefutable Laws for Building Extraordinary Relationships

How Your Words Can Change Your Life Forever

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Health & Well-Being, Personal Development, Personal Growth
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If you don’t know what you are telling yourself, you don’t really know who you are, what you want, where you are, and where you are going.

Words are powerful. If you don’t have positive things to say about yourself, don’t say anything. If you want to to build a great future for yourself, start listening to your words. Because what you are telling yourself is creating your future. So if you don’t want a negative future, start telling yourself positive things today.

You are responsible for your words. Don’t be afraid to tell yourself positive things. Stop telling yourself negative things. Negative words can never produce positive results. Only positive words can give birth to positive things.

When it comes to your words, know this: “You are guilty of all the good things you didn’t tell yourself.”

You can use your words to take charge of your life by using positive words to describe yourself, your work, and your life.

Negative words can stop you from achieving your goals in your life. If you don’t stop using negative words to describe yourself, your life, and your work, you are going to stay where you are. You can change it by using positive words to celebrate your life.

Don’t worry about your past errors. It is okay to make mistakes. It is okay to fail. But do not let them define you. Do not let them define your future. You cannot change the past, but you can change now. All you need to do is to change how you describe yourself. You cannot change your life if you don’t change how you describe yourself, your life, and your work.

With positive words, you can create a new soul.

If you want to move forward in your life, you must stop using negative words to describe your life, your work, and your relationships with other people.

When you use negative words to describe yourself, your work, your relationships (with yourself and other people), your life, you are limiting your future. Remember that change starts with you. So if you want to change your life, change how you describe yourself. When you do that, you will not only feel better about your life, you will become the person you were created to be. The question is: “Are you ready to change how you describe your life? If you are ready, let us do it!