Why You Fear Failure

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No one likes to fail. You are not alone. But failure is part of life. Whether you like it or not, you are going to fail. It is going to get worse before it gets better. There is no overnight success. You are not going to master your work overnight. If you want to grow, if you want to conquer your fears, don’t rush the process. Because it takes time to learn something. Don’t expect things to turn out right the first time. It is not going to happen. If you expect it to work out for you the first time, believe me, that is a losing strategy. It won’t work. Just give yourself time to do your thing. Things are not always going to work out perfectly the first time. Instead of beating yourself up for not completing your work, why not give yourself credit for even trying it. Respect failure. Respect the process. Because everything takes time to do, especially when you are doing it for the first time. If you want to change your life, from now on, you must change your meaning of failure. Failure is not failure. It is a way forward. Because you cannot grow without failure. That is what separates the successful ones from the rest of us. They are not afraid of failure. You shouldn’t be afraid of failure. Do not fear it. Use failure to move yourself forward in your life. When you fail, live it. When you fail, ask for help. Do not be scared to ask for help. Celebrate it when you get it. Help is healthy. It is life. When you make mistakes, fix them. Own them. Do not blame anyone for your mistakes. Instead of blaming other people for your own error, celebrate yourself for knowing what you don’t know.

6 Life Lessons From Nisargadatta Maharaj

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Lesson #1. “Be fully aware of your own being and you will be in bliss consciously. Because you take your mind off yourself and make it dwell on what you are not, you lose your sense of well-being, of being well.”- Nisargadatta Maharaj

Lesson #2. “All you need is to get rid of the tendency to define yourself.”- Nisargadatta Maharaj

Lesson #3. “Only what liberates you from desire and fear and wrong ideas is good. As long as you worry about sin and virtue you will have no peace.”- Nisargadatta Maharaj

Lesson #4. “The right use of mind is in the service of love, of life, of truth, of beauty.”- Nisargadatta Maharaj

Lesson #5.When all names and forms have been given up, the real is with you. You need not seek it. Plurality and diversity are the play of the mind only. Reality is one.”- Nisargadatta Maharaj

Lesson #6. “Instead of seeing things as imagined, learn to see them as they are. When you can see everything as it is, you will also see yourself as you are.”- Nisargadatta Maharaj

Lesson #6. “You can give what you don’t have and you don’t have what you are not. You can only give what you are – and of that you can give limitlessly.”- Nisargadatta Maharaj