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6 Important Lessons From Rachel Hollis On How To Put Life Back Together

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As the old saying goes, “You can’t control what happens to you, but you can control how you react to it.” You can’t control life, but you can control your own life. Live your life. Do not destroy yourself just to make other people happy.

If you are not happy, it is because you are not brave enough to face your life. No matter what is going on out there, it is your responsibility to make yourself happy. If you can’t do it for you, who do you think is going to do it for you. If you are honest with yourself, the answer is you.

If you want to put your life together, here are some strategies, according to Rachel Hollis.

She says, “Don’t fear your weakness, fear drowning in despair for the rest of your time on earth because you were too afraid to confront your pain.” No matter what you are going through in your life, if you want to put your life together, do not “cover your pain to make other people more comfortable.”

She says, “If you want to move forward, be honest about what’s going on even if it’s only to yourself.” If you have the courage to be honest with yourself, that is good enough.

She says, “Stop trying to cover up your emotions, or, frankly, anything you don’t like about yourself or your feelings, with a new coat of paint. … But in order to do that, you’ve got to be real. You have to allow yourself to truly feel what you feel before you can feel what you’d like.” Allow yourself to be you, to express yourself. If you don’t express your God-given self, then what are you doing with it?

She says, “Have the courage to admit who you are, even if it’s only to yourself at first.” Have the courage to admit who you are to yourself, to your mnd, to your body, and to your soul. Why is that? To know others, you must first know yourself. If not, you are faking it. Do not fake your way through life. Live your way through life. Grow your way through life. Do not be scared to set boundaries for yourself. They work.

She says, “When one thing changes, everything changes, even if it takes you a bit to admit it and adjust.” When something changes in your life, you are no longer the same person. Change is important. See it as a blessing, not as a curse.

She says, “You are going to have to love yourself enough to seek help. You are going to have to love yourself enough to forgive yourself. You are going to have to love yourself enough to believe that you can be better, that you will be better, next time. You are also going to have to love yourself enough to walk away from anyone who weaponizes your guilt and uses it against you.” You have the power to do whatever you want. But to do that, you have got to be real with yourself.

Remember, according to Rachel Hollis, “You are an ever-evolving being who will continue to change over time.”

4 Important Financial Lessons From Morgan Housel

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If you want to be successful, make more money, spend less, save more. It is that simple, but very hard to do. You can do it. You have done it before.

And nothing is stopping you from doing it again. And the right time to start is now. If you do not start to take charge of your financial life, then when are you going to start it? Do not wait. Even if you are in debt, do not get discouraged. The only way to free yourself from the bondage of debt is to save more money than you spend.

If you do not need something, then don’t buy it. Do not buy something just because other people are buying it. Do not buy something just because they are cheap. Save your money.

If you really want to take charge of your financial life, your financial health, you must discipline yourself.

You must not buy what you do not need. Know this: It does not matter how much you make. If you cannot save enough money for yourself, then you are not making anything.

Successful people spend less. They save more. They spend less. They spend their money on important things, things that can shape their lives.

If something is not helping you, then it is hurting you. If you can’t save money for yourself, for your future, then you are hurting yourself, your future.

To change that, Morgan Housel says, “So people’s ability to save is more in their control than they might think.” He says, “Saving can be created by spending less.” That is correct. If you want more, spend less, do more, desire less.

You can spend less if you desire less.” That is a problem for a lot of people. They can’t let go of what is on sales.

If you can leave without it, you do not need it. If you can survive a day without it, then you do not need it. Whether something is on sales or not, if you do not need it, do not buy it. Do not waste your money, especially when you don’t have your own money.

“If you want more, spend less.”

Do not spend your credit card on worthless things. Use your credit card to change your life. Use it to enrol for a new course, not to buy something you do not need. Morgan Housel says, “… you will desire less if you care less about what others think of you.” This is one of the problems that is really affecting all of us.

We do things that we are not comfortable with. We do things just to make other people happy. Look, you do not live for people. You are living for yourself. So if you want to be happy, do not worry about what other people are saying about you. They do not count.

What really count is what you are saying about yourself. What really count is whether you are saving money or not? What really count is whether you are growing your financial life or not? Not people’s opinions. Listen to yourself, not to their opinions.