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5 Ways To Stop Comparing Yourself To Others

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If you want to grow, you must stop comparing yourself to others. Instead of comparing yourself to others because they can do what you can’t do, why not focus on what you can do that they cannot do. We all have our strengths and weaknesses. No one is perfect.

Remember, life is not about trying to be perfect, but about trying to do your best.

Focus on what you are good at. Do not focus on what you cannot do. Because success comes from doing what you are really good at. Do not worry about who is doing what. With hard work, you can make your own dream happen.

Do what you know how to do. Take it to the next level. Do what you love to do, not what other people want you to do. Remember, you are not here to pursue other people’s dreams. You are here to pursue your own dreams. If you really want to stop comparing yourself to others, try these strategies:

You must trust yourself

It is really difficult to be you in a world that is trying to change you. No matter what, do not follow the crowd. You must follow your own heart. One reason so many people never listen to themselves is the fear of other people’s opinions.

Do not let other people’s opinions of you bother you. Instead of trying to convince other people to like you, why not concentrate on yourself, on your growth, on where you are going? That is what you should be doing. According to Leo Buscaglia, “The hardest battle you’re going to fight is the battle to be just you.” Conquer yourself, not others. If you can conquer yourself, you can conquer others.

You must understand yourself

Everything starts with understanding. LIfe is about understanding who you really are. If you do not understand yourself, you will find it really hard to understand other people. According to Nikki Giovanni, “If you don’t understand yourself, you don’t understand anybody else.” If you want to know other people, you must first know yourself. The question is, do you really know who you are?

You must focus on your purpose

Do not wait for the right time to act. Do not wait for the right time to start something. The reason you are here is to pursue your purpose. If you are not pursuing your purpose, you are just wasting your time.

Do not let anyone scare you away from your purpose. It is your purpose. It is the reason you are here. Whether you are chasing your purpose or not, your time on earth is limited. You are not going to be here forever.

So you must use the time you have to do great things, to change yourself, to change lives. Do not waste it. Barbara Sher said, “Time is the only wealth we’re given.” Use your time to pursue your purpose. It is your responsibility to pursue your purpose.

According to Mary Oliver, “Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life.” Yes, what are you really with your time? Who are the people around you? If you want to grow, you must surround yourself with great people. If not, you will never leave where you are.

You must live your life fearlessly

You are not going to be successful if you are waiting for everything to be perfect before you start something. You are not going to be successful if you do not have the courage to face your fears. If you want to succeed, you must face them. You must live your life fearlessly. You must have the courage to face yourself, to conquer yourself.

Because if you don’t have what it takes to conquer yourself, you are not going to be able to conquer others. You are not going to be able to live fearlessly. Henry J. Kaiser once said, “Live daringly, boldly, fearlessly. Take the relish to be found in competition- in having put forth the best within you.” If you don’t have the courage to face your future, don’t forget that your success is on the other side of fear. So if you want to be successful, you MUST grow the courage to face your fears.

You must follow your own dream

You must have a dream because if you don’t have a dream, you are going to be chasing other people’s dreams. Unless you have the courage to dream big dreams, you are not going to achieve your greatness. If you want to get to the next level, you must not fear to dream. Henry J. Kaiser once said, “I akways have to dream up against the star. If I don’t dream I will make it, I won’t even get close…”

How To Avoid Living In A Box

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“They are born, put in a box; they go home to live in a box; they study by ticking boxes; they go to what is called ‘work’ in a box, where they sit in their cubicle box; they drive to the grocery store in a box to buy food in a box; they talk about thinking ‘outside the box’ ; and when they die they are put in a box.”- Nassim Nicholas Taleb, Epistemologist, essayist

What does it really mean to live in a box? Can we live in a box for the rest of our lives? How can we avoid living in a box?

You can get out of the box. It is within your power. You start by figuring out what is important to you, where you are in your life, and where you want to go. Because you can’t get out of the box if you don’t know where you are going. Do not talk yourself into believing that living in a box is all you can achieve in your life. That is not true. You can do more than living in a box. You can do more than getting stuck in a rut. You are better than living in a box.

If getting out of the box is so important to you, you must do whatever it takes to get out of it. Do not do what is not helping you grow. Do not do what is not getting you closer to your goal. Do not let fear stop you from living your true life. Do not let fear stop you from doing your best work. Because if you want the best, you must give the best.

Life is about giving. You get what you give. So if you want to achieve your dreams, you must get out of the box. You do that by challenging the status quo, by doing things differently, by not settling for less than you are worth, by thinking outside the box, and by believing in yourself. You can’t change by doing the same thing. You can’t change by living in the box. Growth doesn’t happen inside the box. Growth happens outside the box. So if you want to grow, you MUST stop living in a box.