Tag: Future

2 Anger Management Lessons From Dalai Lama

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When you are angry, the Dalai Lama says, “Keep a calm mind, study the situation, then take a countermeasure. If you let a wrongdoing happen, it might continue and increase, so, out of compassion, take appropriate countermeasures.”

You can’t live without anger. But how you act matters. What you do matters. When you are angry, try to control yourself. You can’t control the other person. But you can control yourself, your actions.

Do not let your anger take over your life. When you are angry, ask yourself, Is this the right way to conduct myself?

If it is not the right way, then stay away. Forgive yourself. Forgive the other person. It is difficult, but doable.

Do not go to bed with someone else’s problem.

Do not let anger ruin your life, your day, your future. No matter what, always try to stay calm when others are going crazy. The Dalai Lama says, “Tolerance means that you should not develop anger or hatred. But if another person does something harmful to us,’ and we do nothing, the person may take even more adavantage of us, and even more negative action may come.”

Treat yourself as you want to be treated. Remember, whatever you tolerate, people will do more of it to you. If you want others to treat you with love, you must first treat yourself with love. If not, it won’t happen.

Further Reading:

Goleman, D., A Force for Good: The Dalai Lama’s Vision for Our World (New York: Bantam Books, 2015): 86-87.

Why You Shouldn’t Fight The Negative

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Do not do it. Because you will never win. The best thing to do for yourself is to focus your energy on positive things. Do not focus on negative things. Do not hang out with negative people. Instead of trying to fight the negative, why not focus on loving yourself? Why not focus on what is important to you? Why not do what makes you really happy? Why not commit yourself to why you are alive?

According to Louis Hay, “Fighting the negative is a total waste of time if you really want to make changes in your life. The more you dwell on what you don’t want, the more of it you create.” So if you don’t want more of negative things, do not focus on them. Let them go. Let anger go. Let resentment. Let envy go. Let discouragement go. Let hate go. Let what you don’t want go. Do not create more of them. Why is that? Because everything you do, every thought you think, is creating your future. It is creating your future life. It is feeding your soul.

So if you want positive things in your life, you must stop thinking about negative things. You must focus on healing yourself. You must focus on discovering why you are here. You must focus on giving yourself life. You must focus more on what you have, not on what you do not have. Plant great seeds.

To win in life, you must plant the seeds of love, of faith, of respect, of courage, of kindness, and of compassion. And you can plant them. The question is, will you do it?