We need people around us, but we don’t need everybody. You need lifters around you. You don’t need downers around you.
If the people around you are not lifting up, they are putting you down. If they are not making you happy, they are making you unhappy.
If they are eating you alive, change them. Do not follow the crowd, follow yourself. You are good enough for yourself. Give yourself what you are expecting from other people. Because no one can give you what is within you.
Choose your friends wisely. Bad friends can stop you from growing. In the words of Thomas S. Monson, “Choose your friends with caution; plan your future with purpose, and frame your life with faith.” If you want to live well, you must choose your friends wisely.
We are not alone. We don’t live our lives alone. We live our lives with people. We play with people. We love people. We eat with people. We study with people. We are part of something bigger than ourselves.
What is that thing that is bigger than yourself? Is it a true friend? Is it a loving relationship? Or is it living your life the way you want it? Whatever it is that is bigger than yourself, that is where your soul is.
Live with your soul. Do not be afraid to choose the people you associate yourself with. Because you are who you associate yourself with. As Miguel De Cervantes famously said, “Tell me thy company, and I’ll tell thee what thou art.” Tell me who your friends are, I will tell you where you are going. Tell me the people you associate yourself with, I will tell you your next step. This is quiet simple, but difficult to follow.
If you want to do great things, follow great doers. If you want to change the world, follow people who are changing the world. If you want to become the person you were created to be, follow your heart. If you want to be loved, follow loving people. If you want to be happy, follow happy people. Don’t waste your time hanging around negative people. Don’t forget that we get what we attract into our lives. So if you want great people to come into your life, you must always think about great people. Because you get what you sow.
Don’t try to keep people who are not adding anything to your life. It doesn’t matter who they are, don’t just keep them. They are going to confuse you. They are going to try to make you live the way they live. They are going to try to convince you that your dream is not good enough. You will hear something like this: “It is not new. Other people are doing it.” When you hear something like that, don’t nurture it. Don’t even think about it. Just let it die. It is not yours. It is for them. It belongs to them.
That is why you should pick your friends carefully. Yes, pick your friends carefully. Some people pretend to be for us, but in reality, they are not for us, they are against us. They don’t want you to move past them. They don’t want you to have what they have. They don’t want you to know what they are doing, where they are going, what their dreams are. You have to be really careful of the places you go to. I am not saying you shouldn’t enjoy your life. Enjoy your life. But do it with people who are lifting you up, not putting you down. Because living is going up, not going down. Are you going up or down?