‘Control Is In Control When…’

Control is about you, not about others. You can only control yourself, not others. Do not go there. Because it won’t work.

It won’t work. It is about you, not about other people. Before you try to control other people, try to control yourself.

Because the only person you can control is yourself. According to Iyanla Vanzant, ‘… control is in control when:

You are fighting to prove you are right; you will lie to prove you are right; you have a need to be right; you are yelling in order to be heard; the only view that makes sense is yours; you won’t say anything believing you won’t be heard; the only thing that matters is what maters to you; you are still giving reasons why after someone has said no; you think if someone gets what they want or need you will not get what you want or need; you jump on someone’s ‘case’ to keep them off your ‘case’; you believe someone can or will hurt you and you are trying to avoid it.’

Instead of trying to control other people, why not focus on how you are going to get what you want?

Why not focus on where you are going, what you are doing, and how you are living your life?

Why not focus on how you are going to better your life? Above all, why not focus on your happiness?

The Power Of Self-Empowerment In Personal Growth

When it comes to your personal growth, self-empowerment is everything. If you are waiting for other people to come and empower you, you are going to wait forever.

No one is coming to save you. You have got what you need to empower yourself. You do. You have you. You have your power. You can start with you, with what you have.

Empowerment is not about other people. It is about you. It is knowing that you have what it takes to change your life. If you are serious about making a difference in your life, you must empower yourself.

‘When it comes to your personal growth, when it comes to your personal success, self-empowerment is everything. If you do not empower yourself, no one is going to do it for you.’

You are empowering yourself when you look after your life, when you take your life seriously,

when you are not afraid to go after what will make you better, when you focus on what is important to you,

when you don’t worry about what other people are saying about you, when you are not afraid to say no to what is not in line with your dreams,

when you are building a stable life for yourself, when you are choosing you, when you are trying new things, when you are meeting new people, and when you are empowering other people.

‘You are tough enough to live your own life. You are smart enough to live your own life. And you are bold enough to face your future.’

Remember that empowerment is not about what other people can do for you. It is about what you can do for yourself.

So what are you doing to empower yourself?