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57 Simple Ways To Help You Get Through Difficult Times

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Personal Growth
Liza Summer

You can’t avoid difficult times, but you can manage them. Here are 57 simple ways to help you get through whatever you are going through in your life right now. Let us get started.

Be strong.

Believe in yourself.

You are building your courage.

Do not lose hope.

Surround yourself with positive people.

Do not forget your dreams.

Stay focused.

Never stop dreaming.

Be confident in yourself.

Be confident in what you do.

Thank God for your life.

Give praise to God for what He has done for you.

Trust God.

Thank God for what you are seeking.

Be brave.

Be ambitious.

Thank God for what you are going through.

Learn from what you are going through.

You are growing.

Know that life is full of difficult times.

Know that life is a battle.

And know that life is a fight.

Motivate yourself.

Do not close your eyes.

Be open to opportunities.

Comfort yourself.

Encourage yourself.

You should never give up on yourself.

During difficult times, you get to know the people around you, including yourself.

Know that you are going through difficult times for a reason.

Know that they are not going to be here forever. Because nothing stays forever, not even your problems.

Take care of yourself.

Keep your head up.

Keep busy.

Face it with a positive attitude.

You have got to go through it.

Difficult times are preparing you, not destroying you.

Be grateful for your life.

Know that everything happens for a reason.

Trust in God.

You are building your strengths.

Just focus on where you are, on what is going on in your life, and how to make it better.

It is not the right time to worry about your future.

Do not worry about your failures.

Do not worry about your mistakes.

Do not worry about your past. It is not the right time to do those things.

Focus on what you can take away from what you are going through. Ask yourself, ” What can I learn from what I am going through?”

Do good things to other people.

Do not worry about what is going on in your life. Worry won’t stop it.

Just focus on doing your best, on giving your best.

What you are going through won’t break you. It will promote you.

Keep going. Do not change your attitude.

Do not be scared.

Do not be discouraged.

Be courageous.

Love yourself.

Forgive yourself. Forgive someone.

And do more work. Because the more you do, the more you get.

Remember, nothing is permanent. Whatever you are going through, it will come to pass.

This Is What Happens When You Stop Talking

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Personal Growth
Photo by mentatdgt

Stop talking. It is listening time. It is time to let go of what you know. It is time to learn from other people. It is time to respect other people. Why is that? Because listening to others is a sign of respect.

When you listen to others, here are some of the things you are saying to them: I hear you. I love you. You are a human being. I respect you. Your problem is my problem. We are in this together. We will get through it together. I want to learn from you. You know what I do not know. You have something important to say. I value you. We can work together. You are the boss, not me. I want to hear your struggles. I want to learn from your successes. I want you to be free to express yourself. I don’t want you to hold anything back. I want you to help me become a better learner, a better listener, a better leader.

If you want to become a better person, you must first learn how to listen.

We learn more when we listen. We miss more when we talk.

According to Amy Cuddy, “When you stop talking, stop preaching, and listen, here’s what happens: People can trust you. … if you do not have people’s trust, you will find it very hard to influence them in a deep and lasting way. You acquire useful information, which makes it more easier to solve any problem you face. You begin to see other people as individuals- and maybe even allies. You no longer see other people as stereotypes. You develop solutions that other people are willing to accept and even adopt. When people contribute to the solutions- when they are co-owners of them- they are more likely to commit to and follow through with them. When people feel heard, they are more willing to listen. … If people don’t feel that you ‘get’ them, they are not inclined to invest their time and energy in activities- such as listening- that will help them to understand you.”

Just listen. Stop preaching. If you want others to hear you, you must first hear them.

Further Reading:

Cuddy, A., Presence: Bringing your BOLDEST SELF to your BIGGEST CHALLENGES (New York: Hachette Book Group, 2015): 78-81.