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5 Ways To Stop Comparing Yourself To Others

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Personal Growth
Photo by Maksim Goncharenok

If you want to grow, you must stop comparing yourself to others. Instead of comparing yourself to others because they can do what you can’t do, why not focus on what you can do that they cannot do. We all have our strengths and weaknesses. No one is perfect.

Remember, life is not about trying to be perfect, but about trying to do your best.

Focus on what you are good at. Do not focus on what you cannot do. Because success comes from doing what you are really good at. Do not worry about who is doing what. With hard work, you can make your own dream happen.

Do what you know how to do. Take it to the next level. Do what you love to do, not what other people want you to do. Remember, you are not here to pursue other people’s dreams. You are here to pursue your own dreams. If you really want to stop comparing yourself to others, try these strategies:

You must trust yourself

It is really difficult to be you in a world that is trying to change you. No matter what, do not follow the crowd. You must follow your own heart. One reason so many people never listen to themselves is the fear of other people’s opinions.

Do not let other people’s opinions of you bother you. Instead of trying to convince other people to like you, why not concentrate on yourself, on your growth, on where you are going? That is what you should be doing. According to Leo Buscaglia, “The hardest battle you’re going to fight is the battle to be just you.” Conquer yourself, not others. If you can conquer yourself, you can conquer others.

You must understand yourself

Everything starts with understanding. LIfe is about understanding who you really are. If you do not understand yourself, you will find it really hard to understand other people. According to Nikki Giovanni, “If you don’t understand yourself, you don’t understand anybody else.” If you want to know other people, you must first know yourself. The question is, do you really know who you are?

You must focus on your purpose

Do not wait for the right time to act. Do not wait for the right time to start something. The reason you are here is to pursue your purpose. If you are not pursuing your purpose, you are just wasting your time.

Do not let anyone scare you away from your purpose. It is your purpose. It is the reason you are here. Whether you are chasing your purpose or not, your time on earth is limited. You are not going to be here forever.

So you must use the time you have to do great things, to change yourself, to change lives. Do not waste it. Barbara Sher said, “Time is the only wealth we’re given.” Use your time to pursue your purpose. It is your responsibility to pursue your purpose.

According to Mary Oliver, “Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life.” Yes, what are you really with your time? Who are the people around you? If you want to grow, you must surround yourself with great people. If not, you will never leave where you are.

You must live your life fearlessly

You are not going to be successful if you are waiting for everything to be perfect before you start something. You are not going to be successful if you do not have the courage to face your fears. If you want to succeed, you must face them. You must live your life fearlessly. You must have the courage to face yourself, to conquer yourself.

Because if you don’t have what it takes to conquer yourself, you are not going to be able to conquer others. You are not going to be able to live fearlessly. Henry J. Kaiser once said, “Live daringly, boldly, fearlessly. Take the relish to be found in competition- in having put forth the best within you.” If you don’t have the courage to face your future, don’t forget that your success is on the other side of fear. So if you want to be successful, you MUST grow the courage to face your fears.

You must follow your own dream

You must have a dream because if you don’t have a dream, you are going to be chasing other people’s dreams. Unless you have the courage to dream big dreams, you are not going to achieve your greatness. If you want to get to the next level, you must not fear to dream. Henry J. Kaiser once said, “I akways have to dream up against the star. If I don’t dream I will make it, I won’t even get close…”

8 Simple Ways To Forgive Yourself

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Personal Growth
Photo by Tara Winstead

Forgiveness is not about other people. Forgiveness is about you. It is the way forward. No matter what people have done to you, forgive them. It is a process. It is not an overnight thing. It is not an overnight event. It takes time to forgive. Do not rush yourself. Just take your time to prepare yourself. Forgiveness is not easy, but it is better for you, for your health, for your life. So if you want to do it, now is the right time to do it.

You can. You will. And you must forgive. Here is how to do it properly:

Change what you believe about yourself

“I change my story by changing what I believe about myself.“- Don Miquel Ruiz

Forgiveness starts with you. It is for you. So to really forgive yourself, to really forgive others, you must first change what you believe about yourself. If you cannot change what you believe about yourself, you cannot forgive yourself.

Learn from your mistakes

Do not let your past mistakes take over your life. It is normal to make mistakes. You cannot grow without them. A mistake is a sign of growth. If you make mistakes, do not beat yourself up. Just learn from them. In the words of Anthony Robbins, “Take the opportunity to learn from your mistakes: find the cause of your problem and eliminate. Don’t try to be perfect; just be an excellent example of being human.” That is why you should make more mistakes. Because learning is not about trying to be perfect, but to get better at what you do.

Value yourself

Until you value yourself, you won’t value your life. And do not expect other people to value you if you cannot value yourself, if you cannot respect yourself. M. Scott Peck once said, “Until you value yourself, you won’t value your time.” Why is that? Because your life is time. And time is your life. Remember, if you value your life, you won’t waste your time. No matter what, do not let anyone put you down. You must surround yourself with great people. To do that, you must first value yourself. You must believe in yourself. If not, you can’t do it.

Thank God for all He has done for you

According to Mary Manin Morrissey, “Thank you, God. I may not have reached my dream, but I am grateful for that which I do possess.” Yes, to get more in life, you must first appreciate what you have. You must focus on what God has given to you, not what you do not have. When you appreciate what you have, you will have more to be grateful for.

“Act happy, feel happy, be happy…”

“Act happy, feel happy, be happy, without a reason in the world. Then you can love, and do what you will.”- Dan Millman

Remember that the essence of life is to be happy. And it is your responsibility to make yourself happy. No matter what is going on in your life, do not forget to make yourself happy.

Be there for yourself

Dr Phil says, “You’re only lonely if you’re not there for you.” People are lonely because they are not there for themselves. Do not do that to yourself. Do not let the fear of other people’s opinions stop you from being there for yourself. Because if you do not have the courage to be there for yourself, no one is going to be there for you.

Surround yourself with great people

To forgive yourself, you must surround yourself with great people. Who are they? Why are they different? They are for you, not against you. They are for your dreams, not against your dreams. When you are with great people, you can do what you will. According to Og Mandino, ” Do not listen to those who weep and complain, for their disease is contagious.” So let me ask you. Who are the people around you?

“Never compare yourself or your achievements with others.”

Focus on what you are doing. Others are doing their own things. Don’t worry about what others are getting, what others are doing, or where they are going. That is not your business. What you are doing is your business, is your responsibility, not what others are doing. Focus on yourself. If you want to compete, compete with yourself. It is simple, but hard to do. When it comes to living your life, do what Norman Vincent Peale said. Norman Vincent Peale said, “Never compare yourself or your achievements with others.” If you have the courage to compete with yourself, you will have the courage to live a great life. Because it takes courage to live a great life.