You Can’t Change People, But You can Change Yourself

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People change because they want to change, not because they are threatened to change. It is difficult to change yourself, let alone to even think of changing other people. It is good to try, but you are unlikely to succeed.

Change is not comfortable. People don’t like to change, because it is not easy. It makes them nervous. It makes them uncomfortable. They will resist it. Since you know how hard it it to convince people to change, why bother?

It is good to try. Remember, no matter what you do, no matter the strategy you use to convince them to change, there are people who will never change. They love what they are doing. They are comfortable with where they are and with what they are doing. They will change when they are ready.

In order to succeed in convincing people to change, give them valid reasons why they should change. Give them valid reasons why they should leave their comfort zones for something they don’t understand. Let them know that changing is coming. Don’t surprise them. If you do that, they will resent and resist your project. Make them understand that where they are going will be better than where they are coming from. Give them hope. Coach them. Make them comfortable. Don’t exclude those who are not in support of your change process. Listen to them. They have something valuable to add to your change project.

Don’t get frustrated if people are not ready to change. They will change when they are ready. It will not happen if they don’t believe in you. Before they even listen to you, they have to believe in what you are selling. So be honest when dealing with people. Thomas A. Kempis said, “Be not angry that you cannot make others as you wish them to be, since you cannot make yourself as you wish to be.” If you can’t change yourself, don’t even bother to change others. Change starts with you. People will change when they see you change.

Change is personal. If you want people to change, be honest, and give them time to process it. Don’t rush them, and they will consider it.

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Where you are today was created yesterday

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Where you are today was created yesterday. What are you creating right now? Are you creating the life you have always wanted? Are you preparing for that job interview? Or, Are you just wishing tomorrow will be better than today?

You can wish all you like. If you don’t prepare for what you want, what you want will never happen. Wishing cannot change your life. Your life will change if you have the courage to take action, to prepare. You prepare for what you want and need in your life. You can’t get it by just wishing to get. You succeed by working hard and smart for what you want.

You cannot grow more than your thinking. If want to do great things in life, don’t wish for it, plan for it.

“It is never too late to plant a new seed.”

What you are doing today will lead you to that place you want to be tomorrow. You are making your tomorrow today. If you want your tomorrow to be better, you must do great things today. If you want to be financially free, start saving money today. Stop spending more than you earn. If you want to work for a great corporation tomorrow, start studying hard and smart today. If you want to live in peace, start giving people peace. If you want to be happy, start making people happy. If you want to be healthier, start balancing your diet. If you want to own a business, start planning for it today. Whatever you are doing right now, you will get the results tomorrow.

“It is never too late to change your life.”

James Joyce said, “I am tomorrow, or some future day, what I established today. I am today what I established yesterday or some previous day.”

What you are reaping today was the seed you planted yesterday. What you will reap tomorrow is what you are planting today. Whatever you sow, you will reap. If you sow something good, you will get something good. If you sow something bad, guess what, you will reap something bad.

“It is never too late to build a new career.”

Today, I encourage you to check the things you have been doing to yourself. It is never too late to plant a new seed. It is never too late to build a new career. It is never too late to meet a new person. It is never too late to change your life. It is never too late to change your mind- from negative to positive. It is never too late, and it will never be too late.